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      Hello. I have noticed a great deal of confusion regarding how to use the report feature and what is expected regarding reports, so I am making a clarification announcement to users who may be unfamiliar with how the report feature works. Please note we have this rule regarding reports: 16.  Do report. Do not make frivolous reports (such as "I don't like this person"). Frivolous reports will result in a warning and possible ban. a. When reporting, please give a reason. Reports citing what rule the post is breaking and giving some information are way more valuable and will get the issue resolved faster. (Reports with no explanations sometimes require mods to go through and skim the entire thread to find out what's going on. Please save us time if you can). b. Don’t waste the mods’ time. Report people for breaking the rules, otherwise don’t report. [Rules in their entirety can be found here.] We also have a wonderful tutorial on how to use the report feature created by one of our former moderators which you can find here. In essence, we enforce the rules as they are written. In a rare occasion there may not be a direct violation but the user is still conducting themselves inappropriately and how we handle that is up to the moderators discretion. We do our best. We also encourage you to use the report feature to report posts that have been edited down to nothing or if you double posted and would like your double post hidden. Also, please note that we do not provide updates on reports. We get far too many to be able to keep up with every one. You are welcome to message a moderator to ask about your report, but please know that we cannot and will not divulge any information on whether we banned the user you are reporting. Simply that we have taken appropriate action. I hope this helps provide further clarification on how to use the report feature. Should you have any questions not clear in these instructions, please feel free to message me or Nyx. Thank you. *Please allow up to 3 business days (as we tend to be slower on weekends) for a response and for reports to be cleared.

Anyone here try to mend a broken friendship b4??


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And how did it go? 

What happened? 

Curious as to what other people's experiences were...as I am going through something right now, I was blocked on all formats I talked to my friend. As far as I know (some you can't tell). Might have been blocked on texting and cellular too but I'm not in a good place to find out!! Or even read her last texts to me before I was blocked. I wanted to "walk away" and calm down before I was ready to read them. As she was getting more and more heated the more I texted her..even tho what I was writing was not intended to cause that reaction. In fact, I meant it to do the opposite. Make peace.

So I've been pushing off reading them cuz I didn't know if they would be good or bad (ignorance is bliss!)...but then I saw she blocked me today, which had never happened for previous arguments. She also had her family block me!!

I don't exactly have any friends, my only other two are distant and literally decades older than me. (My circumstances limit me severely.)..We also got pretty close pretty fast and she seemed to be slightly even more "present" in the friendship than I was, which I appreciated. So this is quite a shocker. And it hurts me more than I thought something like this would.

And God knows what her texts actually say if she took it as far to block me!! Idk if I can ever look now! I literally put my finger over them and my heart starts racing when I have to respond to anyone else on my phone. 

She does not live close enough to go see and we are both basically agoraphobic hermits right now anyways because of shared circumstances..which is why we started talking in the first place. 

I'm sure I did nothing objectively wrong, and in fact, she often upsets me, but I keep my mouth shut most of the time.  I have occasional outbursts but cool down fast, but she has impulsive reactions to stuff I say...usually the weirdest things. And if I get upset about ANYTHING, she often thinks I'm being ridiculous. But I'm never "allowed" to think the same. 

I apologized for my part of the argument and any misunderstanding but I also told her I wasn't going to deal with the double standards and such...and that I could be just as honest as she was to me...and I was..which may have been what she wasn't able to handle. But idk. She just started telling me I was full of shit. 

Pretty sad predicament. Not sure what to do. Not really looking for advice but thought I'd share my current situation in order to encourage others to share theirs so maybe I can take a few hints from them! 

Whether I should make further effort to mend the friendship or not. 

 

Thanks guys!

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People mend things with friends all the time, but you have to think about it whether it's worth the effort or if you should just try and get some more friends. Because the way it is.... it sounds toxic and I would know. Do what will make you smile every morning.

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