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The "Babygirl" Aesthetic and Why It Should Die

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This is a NSFW topic so if you are underaged or at work/school then I suggest you stop reading this topic and go to another topic. Okay? Okay. 

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If you have seen my posts floating around this forum, y'all should know that I'm a bit of a...*ahem* non-traditional person when it comes to my preferences in the bedroom. I am an 18+ masochist and a submissive all senses of those words and hopefully one day I can find a consenting adult willing to accept and carry-out the fantasies I have. It may take a while, as I am in college and I also have a lot of personal issues to resolve beforehand, but maybe one day it can happen. 

Now that you know my background, you should get a bit of an understanding of why I so despise the "babygirl and daddy" aesthetic I see leaking out from Tumblr and into the mainstream fashion. To me, all these women and even UNDERAGED GIRLS wearing BDSM collars like a fashion accessory makes me feel devalued as a kinky person. The collar is such a huge significant piece of the alternative lifestyle, it's a sign of ownership for the dominant and a sign of having someone you can trust for the submissive. There are even people who have a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle using special collars that lock instead of wedding rings to show how the submissive is forever bound to the dominant and how much they are willing to give themselves over to the one they love. Collars are serious buisness...and yet here in 2017 everyone is wearing one regardless of their bedroom personality. BDSM just becomes a meaningless trend and it makes those of us who are genuinely into kinky play look like a joke. It's Fifty Shades of Abuse all over again, no one is willing to do the work that a real BDSM relationship needs to have in order to be safe and to work, people just want to be more interesting so they walk around claiming to be submissive and reaping the benefits of being seen as a special "kinky" person when they don't even know what a safe word is. 

And it's also damaging to have this whole age-play "babygirl" trend as an aesthetic too because it's not genuine age play OR genuine BDSM either. Age play is generally a non-sexual thing people do when they are in distress, and BDSM submissives who often call their dom "daddy" are usally saying "daddy" less in a litteral father figure but much more in the sense of a mafia boss in an old film noir calling himself "big daddy"- its a slang for being the boss of something. Think of how some partners call each other "babe", it's not that they want their loved one to be a infant but rather its a little affectionate pet name. But with this trend these people start walking around with pacifiers, wearing "kawaii little girl clothing desu", and whine about wanting "daddy-kins to choke my smol wittle neck"; it's sexualizing things associated with children? All in the name of feeling "cuuuteee~"? It gets really uncomfortable. And it's worse when minors start getting into the "I want a daddy" mindset for aesthetic reasons, as there are predators who claim to be "daddies" just so they can take advantage of young girls who are self-proclaimed "babygirls". Having this mentality as a fashion statement is making infantization an acceptable practice, which is not okay because while you run around in your cutsey "little" land real minors are being sexually exploited at the expense of copying your aesthetic. It's happened before. And it keeps happening so as long as nobody says anything about it.

What ever happened to slime punk and sea punk? Or classic goth? Pastel goth? At least with those Tumblr aesthetics pedophilia isn't getting the blind eye because it's trendy. 

This "Babygirl" mentality needs to die so badly. Hopefully collars, not chokers as they don't indicate false kinky behavior and have been a fashion staple since the Victorian era, and "LG/DD" will be seen as tacky in a few months and the consenting adult BDSM community can once again be clean of "kawaii" posers, children who are putting themselves in danger, and pedophiles.

These are my thoughts on the trend. What do you guys think? Do you agree or disagree that this trend needs to die?

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I think that its not their fault that pedophiles sees their pictures ?? That's the same as saying that a girl who wears revealing clothes is at blame if she gets sexual attention. 

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To me, all these women and even UNDERAGED GIRLS wearing BDSM collars like a fashion accessory makes me feel devalued as a kinky person. The collar is such a huge significant piece of the alternative lifestyle, it's a sign of ownership for the dominant and a sign of having someone you can trust for the submissive. There are even people who have a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle using special collars that lock instead of wedding rings to show how the submissive is forever bound to the dominant and how much they are willing to give themselves over to the one they love. Collars are serious buisness...and yet here in 2017 everyone is wearing one regardless of their bedroom personality. BDSM just becomes a meaningless trend and it makes those of us who are genuinely into kinky play look like a joke.

 

Tbh I would reccomend you to chill out a bit. I understand that for you your collars may have really significant meaning, but for me (and probably most of peope on the Earth) collar is mainly connected with pets (I hear "collar", I see my beloved dog with the whole love and joy probably no weaker than in lots of kinky relationships, sorry) and on the second place with kind of BDSM sex itself. It would be terrible if people who like any kind of kinky sex had right to occupy whichever thing related to it. Live and let others to do the same.

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Tbh I would reccomend you to chill out a bit. I understand that for you your collars may have really significant meaning, but for me (and probably most of peope on the Earth) collar is mainly connected with pets (I hear "collar", I see my beloved dog with the whole love and joy probably no weaker than in lots of kinky relationships, sorry) and on the second place with kind of BDSM sex itself. It would be terrible if people who like any kind of kinky sex had right to occupy whichever thing related to it. Live and let others to do the same.

 

Maybe you are right. I do get emotional sometimes so perhaps I do need to take a step back and let people do as they please.

I still don't like how some predators take advantage of the underaged folk who run "babygirl" blogs, but as for the collar part I can let go of a bit. 

And @Toukv I was not blaming the girls for sharing their pictures. Of course it isn't their fault if an adult hurts them. However, kink blogs should be for adults 18+ only and shared with 18+ adults only. If a minor is running a porn blog, it's a problem because according to law a minors do not know how to handle sex safely, especially kinky sexy. Or if an adult is sharing a porn blog with a kid just so they can have a "little" then that's where an issue lies because...well you know that's pedophila and pedophila is not okay. Sorry if I didn't make that clear in my last post, but I have seen adults share these kind of blogs with kids as well as kids run these kind of blogs. That's what I'm upset about and by having a kink revolving around childish things people are more inclined to think children are allowed to be involved, which is not okay for their respective reasons. Does that clear everything up? 

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I still don't like how some predators take advantage of the underaged folk who run "babygirl" blogs, but as for the collar part I can let go of a bit. 

 

I'm absolutely with you at this point. There's nothing bad with being openly sexual, but only when someone has age proper for sex. (According to law, but also morals, because there are countries allowing sex from the very young range of age...) In my country in Europe you can even have sex at 15yo, but watching porn is legal from 18yo. I don't mind about "babygirl" easthetic when it comes to blushy pinks, glitter, maybe some anime outfits, but it's definetely awful when underage girls mix it with kinky "daddy's little girl", boob shots attitude. They'll regret their presence on the Internet soon and it's dangerous because of number of old creeps waiting 4 them literally everywhere.

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I agree with you, specially because you are in the BDSM spectrum, and most of these teenagers girls (at least the ones I've seen) only do this kind of stuff because it's trendy. Unfortunately, this is a common issue with "abnormal" subjectives (i'm not saying it's not ok being a BDSM participant, I say "abnormal" more of like a topic no one talks about it very much, you know?), it was just this freaking 50 Shades Of Grey movie getting some mainstream fame, and now everyone is on the BDSM train, choo-choo.

I blame these female singers too, with the "i'm so young and innocent and angelic and I need someone to take care of me" aesthetic.


A lot of girls who become a "little" will probably cross with someone who doesn't really care about them, men who will just fuck them and that's it. People with zero consciousness about being a dominant person, how to treat someone properly and with their desired respect.

 

This needs to die, for real.

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I agree that underaged girls should definitely not jump into shit they know nothing about, just because it's "new cool sexy tumblr/instagram aesthetic" or " popular kind of BDSM a la 50 shades of grey". Adults can do what they want in bed with other consenting adults, but sharing on the interenet should only be done on 18+ web-sites.

The aesthetic aspect is more of a grey area. As long as it doesn't invlove anything explicit, then dressing in pastel pink and being cute is not a problem, unless it has caption "little girl" or "daddy" anywhere near it. 

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"makes me feel devalued as a kinky person" 

"no one is willing to do the work [...] so they walk around claiming to be submissive and reaping the benefits"

 

these are among the most delusional self indulgent things I've ever read on the internet. You seem to have picked up on a phenomenon where for example, someone who studied for ten years and had to pass a bunch of government certification exams to become officially an "Engineer", might gripe about entry level IT jobs having the title "engineer" tacked on, and this devaluing the public perception of their profession. But your freaking kink is not a qualification, you silly girl. Living your kink is not performing some needed function in society. You can't be devalued as a kinky person - no one ever valued you as that.

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I think that its not their fault that pedophiles sees their pictures ?? That's the same as saying that a girl who wears revealing clothes is at blame if she gets sexual attention. 

 

Its not legal -in most countries- to post sexually explicit photos of anyone under 18 years old, this includes themselves. So, they actually partly to blame if a paedo ends up seeing their photos. And as far as I know, both can be charged under the law if anything happens.

Most of the people that post pics like these are around 16 years old, and sixteen year olds arent naive like children. They know what they are doing and should not be exempt from the blame imo.

Revealing clothes =/= sexual pictures of minors...

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Its not legal -in most countries- to post sexually explicit photos of anyone under 18 years old, this includes themselves. So, they actually partly to blame if a paedo ends up seeing their photos. And as far as I know, both can be charged under the law if anything happens.

Most of the people that post pics like these are around 16 years old, and sixteen year olds arent naive like children. They know what they are doing and should not be exempt from the blame imo.

Revealing clothes =/= sexual pictures of minors...

 

It wasnt at that tho, you misunderstood

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