Bubzbeauty / Lindy


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What I'm most suspicious of is that due to how soon Ayla was conceived after them nearly splitting up, was the only reason they had Ayla to "rekindle/fix their marriage"?  

Once again, assuming I'm getting the timeline right both the miscarige and Ayla happened right after they decided not to split. If Tim reacted so poorly to Isaac being born and said he didn't feel like a dad, why did she (/They) think that having a second kid would magically fix the problem? Did she think that if they had another kid Tim would do a 360, start being at home with the family more, and love the second kid at first sight being the father to the second child he wasn't to Isaac at first? (And if that did happen, how would Isaac feel knowing his dad didn't love him at first but loved the second kid right away?). If that was what she was hopping for it sure didn't work because now she's at home with 2 kids and Tim is getting worse.

Sorry if I'm crossing a line a bit by saying all of this, but after hearing all of this I honestly can't help thinking part of the reason why she (/They) wanted a second kid was to "save the marriage".

 

youre not alone because i was thinking the same thing. i was gonna write about it in my previous post, but i wasnt sure if it was too much of a reach. it really seems possible to me.

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Both Tim and Lindy don't seem very mature considering that they're both in their 30s :alpacabored: Tim not being a responsible father and Lindy publishing things that shouldn't be broadcasted to the public, much less published in a book. It might set negative examples of "hey this is what a relationship should be like" to not just their children, but other people. It's fine to talk about your relationship and how much you love your SO, but posting to the public about extremely private things which should be kept between each other? That's kinda asking for more issues as well.

They have had TWO surprise pregnancies, possible cheating, becoming pregnant right when they're about to break it off, openly state that they didn't love/had a hard time bonding with Issac (he'll probably find out when he's older), etc.

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i think she's "allowed" to put such sensitive issues in her book, IF she doesn't present her life in a vlog so positively. having issues with marriage is normal

... idk people will always assume and judge what would ALL of THIS result to...? what if people see and the consequences will fall on their children which is totally unfair.

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back when i still watched her, i remember her pretty much explaining how they believe that “if it happens, it happens” and that being pregnant again is a “miracle”. i get that they have their religious beliefs, but personally i think it is so incredibly irresponsible. neither of them were ready to have kids yet, tim still wasnt after isaac was born, and not only did they have a miscarriage, but she ended up getting pregnant shortly after. and apparently they were planning on splitting several times throughout all this? if you are fertile with no serious medical problems, have sex with the opposite sex, and dont use any form of contraception, it is simple science that you have a great chance of getting pregnant. if tim wasnt ready after the first one, what makes you think hed be ready for two? i feel like he keeps running off to avoid responsibilities and i felt so bad for lindy seeing her be alone while pregnant and alone taking care of both her kids. either tim needs to grow the fuck up and act like a husband and father or lindy needs to leave him.

i feel so awful for her kids, especially isaac. imagine him growing up and watching these videos and reading the book where she says to thousands of people how his father didnt love him right away and didnt feel a bond, or his mother was so stressed out with a baby she wasnt ready for that it made her cry so often by herself. she said that she wants her daughter to read this book when shes older, but imagine her finding out about how they felt about her brother. what if she reads it and learns that you should just stick around with someone who treats you like trash because if you “choose to accept it and choose to love them, youll be happy”? that thats what love is? 

lindy needs to be more cautious of what she puts out into the public. a big reason why i stopped watching bubz is because she constantly aired out her family’s dirty laundry along with overexposing her children to the internet. it became too much for me and just made me feel bad for her even more. i got tired of how she kept crying and complaining about the same things with tim and isaac, but never did anything to fix it. she would just accept it and put on this happy mask. 

 

Okay, I feel like a lot of y'all keep talking about Isaac and Ayla like they're going to grow up having the lowest self esteem ever, and I know some of you have mentioned that that's how you'd feel, but I don't know whether the rest of you are also  projecting or what, but it's highly unlikely they will have such low self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence with the way Lindy is raising them. They're not going to feel like burdens, and some of you keep reiterating this like you desperately hope they do feel like shit later in life so that you can see Lindy feel like shit for exposing  her life to so many people.

 Realistically, they're going to grow up with a realist mentality and perspective on marriage and children, and ultimately be more prepared for the negatives of both. It's easy to see that Bubz wants Ayla to read this BECAUSE of all the struggles she's gone through, and wants to make sure that Ayla knows it's okay to have negative feelings. And that's life, guys. It's OKAY for parents to not be attached to their children. It's OKAY for parents to not feel like parents or have days where they don't want to be parents. Tim's behavior is NOT okay, before anyone says I'm making excuses, but for Lindy to be this honest DOES give her children a positive mentality to know that yes, these feelings can happen, these feelings can exist, and they're not going to feel like shit.

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I stopped watching around when she had Isaac. Seems like things got pretty ugly and it's irresponsible to think pregnancy is something you just 'let happen' SMH selfish parents. 

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one thing that kinda bugs me in the recent pages of this thread is that some of you criticise Lindy for pretending that her life is perfect and pretending that there aren't problems, yet when she expresses marital problems and bumps in the road with her and her family, suddenly it's going to be detrimental to Isaac and Ayla's future growth? I feel like the children will go through these issues in Lindy's book knowing that family life is not always perfect but that as long as you work for it it can turn out okay, I doubt that when Isaac watched her videos when he's older he'll feel unloved. Lindy (in her vlogs) seems to love her children so much (which I have absolutely no doubt she does). Like do you want her not to talk about any problems? Or pretend there aren't any for the children's sakes?

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one thing that kinda bugs me in the recent pages of this thread is that some of you criticise Lindy for pretending that her life is perfect and pretending that there aren't problems, yet when she expresses marital problems and bumps in the road with her and her family, suddenly it's going to be detrimental to Isaac and Ayla's future growth? I feel like the children will go through these issues in Lindy's book knowing that family life is not always perfect but that as long as you work for it it can turn out okay, I doubt that when Isaac watched her videos when he's older he'll feel unloved. Lindy (in her vlogs) seems to love her children so much (which I have absolutely no doubt she does). Like do you want her not to talk about any problems? Or pretend there aren't any for the children's sakes?

 

It's not that she is expressing "marital problems and bumps in the road." It's ongoing issues, clearly, and she talks about it like, "Well, this really hurt our relationship, but everything is perfectly fine and okay!!!" Like no Lindy, things have not gotten better and you're excusing this and still acting like your life is perfectly fine. That's what people have a problem with when she DOES talk about issues.

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It's not that she is expressing "marital problems and bumps in the road." It's ongoing issues, clearly, and she talks about it like, "Well, this really hurt our relationship, but everything is perfectly fine and okay!!!" Like no Lindy, things have not gotten better and you're excusing this and still acting like your life is perfectly fine. That's what people have a problem with when she DOES talk about issues.

 

hmm i guess i understand that, but my problem is more with the people that assume her talking about issues to do with the children are going to affect them further on in life. it's my fault for not phrasing it right but i agree lindy paints a sort of picture perfect world but by addressing her and Tim's struggles raising and feeling connected to the kids she's acknowledging that it's not all perfect and I don't agree that it will damage the children so much as some of the comments here assume. with "marital" i kind of meant everything mentioned to do with the kids and tim btw... but i also understand the point you made

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It's not that she is expressing "marital problems and bumps in the road." It's ongoing issues, clearly, and she talks about it like, "Well, this really hurt our relationship, but everything is perfectly fine and okay!!!" Like no Lindy, things have not gotten better and you're excusing this and still acting like your life is perfectly fine. That's what people have a problem with when she DOES talk about issues.

 

This is kinda the thing that confuses me and others though. Some people (especially on Guru Gossip) keep saying they have a problem with her life looking perfect and her acting like everything is perfect and okay even though we know they have problems, so what do people want her to do then to make her life look like it matches the ongoing issues? What would appease this issue people have with her? Do they want her to sit there and cry every vlog and make it look like Isaac cries all day that he doesn't have a father? Do they want her to set up the stage so that it looks like she's in a terrible situation so that it matches what we know about her? Like what would be an appropriate solution for the people criticising how she makes her life look? Sit there every vlog and not act so optimistic or positive and go "Fuckin Tim. POS Freeloader's out partying again. I fuckin hate that guy." Then Leave? Because even if she leaves people are still going to complain that she shouldn't have had babies if she was going to Then complain about officially being a single mother? So I just need to know -Ryan Gossling voice- WHAT DO YOU WANT? lol (genuinely though, I'm curious)

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This is kinda the thing that confuses me and others though. Some people (especially on Guru Gossip) keep saying they have a problem with her life looking perfect and her acting like everything is perfect and okay even though we know they have problems, so what do people want her to do then to make her life look like it matches the ongoing issues? What would appease this issue people have with her? Do they want her to sit there and cry every vlog and make it look like Isaac cries all day that he doesn't have a father? Do they want her to set up the stage so that it looks like she's in a terrible situation so that it matches what we know about her? Like what would be an appropriate solution for the people criticising how she makes her life look? Sit there every vlog and not act so optimistic or positive and go "Fuckin Tim. POS Freeloader's out partying again. I fuckin hate that guy." Then Leave? Because even if she leaves people are still going to complain that she shouldn't have had babies if she was going to Then complain about officially being a single mother? So I just need to know -Ryan Gossling voice- WHAT DO YOU WANT? lol (genuinely though, I'm curious)

 

It's okay to seem okay, but it's the fact that she really usually acts like the issues are nonissues that make it so concerning. 

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It's okay to seem okay, but it's the fact that she really usually acts like the issues are nonissues that make it so concerning. 

 

That's what I'm asking though. What does she need to do Every vlog to make her issues seem like issues to us rather than non-issues?

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That's what I'm asking though. What does she need to do Every vlog to make her issues seem like issues to us rather than non-issues?

 

i agree.. i actually think she addresses issues pretty well and lets it out and shes pretty aware of how shes feeling and how its affecting her and the kids. but after that, she continues being a happy mom for her kids so idg why some people are really pushing the "stop acting like your life is perfect!!!" notion.

is she just supposed to act depressed after?

i feel like lindy isnt really acting like her life is perfect but more like shes grateful for "this and that" and vlogging is a way for her to remind herself of this

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i would have never thought that lindy would have a fairly active thread on pull. i’ve watched her for years & i have realized she does have that attitude of ~persevering through a smile~ 

its unrealistic to think that way & she does seem very naive (or she hides behind a bubbly, happy-go-lucky facade). her almost insufferable optimism makes me feel.. a little sad? not like it’s necessarily a bad thing,, idk. she’s so incredibly rooted in her ideals of positivity & good thoughts but it’s not taking her anywhere better. 

also why are some users so adamant about how lindy should handle her situation & her presence online? if she films the happier moments of her life, she’s trying to project an image of a perfect family & a stable marriage. if she posts about her struggles & how hard of a time she’s having, she overshares her private life. ?????? what do y’all want from her & why do some of you feel entitled for her to cater to what you deem is appropriate behavior & reactions? you all contradict yourselves over & over , like y’all can’t be satisfied with anything 

i do have concerns about isaac’s and ayla’s consent on whether they want to be filmed & put on the internet for so many people to see. maybe the best thing for lindy & the children right now is to go on a hiatus from youtube & figure out her marriage first. 

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i do have concerns about isaac’s and ayla’s consent on whether they want to be filmed & put on the internet for so many people to see. maybe the best thing for lindy & the children right now is to go on a hiatus from youtube & figure out her marriage first. 

 

THIS

I agree 100%, I honestly think it would be best for her to go on hiatus until she sorts her life out. (Tbh she should have gone on hiatus last year when her and Tim were on the verge of divorce). She probably never will though since YouTube is her and Tim's only source of income and her beauty channel is pretty much dead.

Which brings me onto another topic: Her beauty channel is practically dead yet she is apparently planning on releasing her own line of lipsticks soon?!? (I think liquid lipsticks? She mentioned they were coming soon on her Instagram story and I remember a year or 2 ago her showing swatch ideas in a vlog).

If she were an active beauty blogger I could see them selling well, but now that she is a lifestyle vlogger I have no idea how she plans on selling these. When she released her eyeshadow palette at the time she was atleast somewhat active on her beauty channel. To release more makeup now, I really don't see the point.

I'm also concerned about Isaac and Ayla' s consent in vlogs as well. Lindy literally shows EVERYTHING about them in her vlogs, including stuff that should be kept hidden like them running around naked in just their dipers, issac pooping in the bathtub, both of them naked in the bathtub. Heck, I remember when issac was first born she actually got a video taken down because she uploaded a vlog of her bathing issac and didn't censor out his private parts.

There Is no way any kid would be ok with their parents posting that kind of stuff about them on the internet...

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