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Let women do what they want with their bodies. Boo hoo. No one cares.

The reason why I don't think she should talk about it is because she's just insanely awkward and shouldn't based on the content of her channel.

Switching topics though, I also don't think she should be talking about "college advice" either. She literally completed her (extremely demanding) degree in 2.5 years and clearly had a miserable time all the way through. She gave some advice in a video saying that "you should load up on courses your freshman year" when I know advisors that specifically say that you SHOULDN'T do that lmao.

 

Who in this conversation is saying that women couldn't do what they want with their bodies? Just because people think that men and women are different, and ergo, the advice should be different, doesn't mean it's policing someone's body. It's up to the individual to either take the advicem half take the advice or don't take the advice at all. Girls and women should be given the straight facts to lead them on the path to have happy and healthy careers which will make them more ready for a real relationship. Advice on sex has layers to it. We are not beasts like the rest of the animal kingdom; we are thinking, feeling beings and every action has deeper implications than we realize. Women having casual sex happens, but it doesn't mean it's healthy. Men watch porn happens, but it doesn't mean it's healthy. Both biological and social science have an overwhelming level of introductory evidence (as in they could do deeper studies) that points to the fact that how we view sex, how we feel sex, what we expect from sex, etc is based a great deal on our gender. Call it generations of social brainwashing, but I call it a reality that should be considered for everyone to have a healthy discourse for the betterment of individuals and society. If it wasn't true on some level, companies wouldn't be pumping so much money into marketing. You know what marketing is based on? Psychology, which means (at the very least) they target the lowest common denominator of their target market, which is gender. From there, it's about tailoring it to a certain sect. 

Her talking about sex has nothing to do with her being awkward. There are people, who will forever be awkward, that have sex. It has everything to do with the fact that she doesn't have her life together and/or enough experience to really speak on this; and I mean her being raised in (clearly) a more hush, hush sheltered environment and only being 21, making it only about three years since she flew the coop. There are 21 year olds that have the capacity to carry on a mature conversation about sex, but she is not one of them. When you are a lonely, potential train wreck, you are not the one to giving advice or even conversing on a platform where you are assumed to have good wisdom.

Ashley has potential, but she should just stick to fashion videos until she figures out her next step. In a way, she's trying to grow up on camera; it's not going to age well, which makes me sad for a whole generation who will put their everything out there without realizing the greater implications of their actions because, let's face it, many influencers will have this be a steady career if they don't start their own thing, which then begs the question on what company will want this person to be on their team.

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This video on her second channel got me really anxious. She films the same thing a lot of times just to get the lines perfect and every time she says "uhm" looks like she's about to cry in frustration (someone commented that on the video and I thought it was really on point)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LosWgoSy9FI

I thought the vidcon video was kinda nice even tho she was really socially awkward and trying to fit in, but now seeing bits of the backstage, with her filming and filming the same thing repeatedly was actually kinda sad.

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This video on her second channel got me really anxious. She films the same thing a lot of times just to get the lines perfect and every time she says "uhm" looks like she's about to cry in frustration (someone commented that on the video and I thought it was really on point)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LosWgoSy9FI

I thought the vidcon video was kinda nice even tho she was really socially awkward and trying to fit in, but now seeing bits of the backstage, with her filming and filming the same thing repeatedly was actually kinda sad.

 

Someone also commented that she looks empty and sad which is true. That’s probably how she actually looks like when she is not trying to cover it with fake quirkiness and over sexualized comments. 

The reason why she makes such mistakes when she speaks and why she feels the need to make it sound perfect is because she wants to sound smart. I said before that she talks too quickly because she has this need of sounding smart but very few people can actually speak at that speed without stuttering every half second like her. She really needs to calm down and accept that her idea of perfection is unrealistic and skewed and is only causing her unnecessary frustration. Ashley, don’t say that you work hard on your videos just because it takes you hours to film a simple video as a result of your disturbing need to sound smart and perfect. That video was honestly a little scary to watch, she looks like the kind of person that is about to have a mental breakdown. She probably thought people would find it funny but most comments talk about how sad she looks and how unnecessary it is for her to try to sound perfect all the time. Imagine all the time she spends filming and editing if she’s like that in every video...

This comment hits the nail on the head 

 

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This video on her second channel got me really anxious. She films the same thing a lot of times just to get the lines perfect and every time she says "uhm" looks like she's about to cry in frustration (someone commented that on the video and I thought it was really on point)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LosWgoSy9FI

I thought the vidcon video was kinda nice even tho she was really socially awkward and trying to fit in, but now seeing bits of the backstage, with her filming and filming the same thing repeatedly was actually kinda sad.

 

damn. not to sound mean, but does ashley go to therapy? she shouldn't be so harsh on herself.

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after seeing that video, it now make sense to me why her sense of humor is the way it is.

She seems like such a extreme perfectionist, and imo she knew people were gonna feel bad for her.

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i actually love her sm i feel so bad watching the video

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honestly this makes me double down on what I said before--her recent uptick in constant smiling and jokes and positivity just seems so Stepford Wives-y, and now that I see her on the verge of a mental breakdown for trying to get basic, dumb lines to be "perfect" (like, they weren't even that great of things to say, and she was saying them as if she wrote a script beforehand?!) I see why it felt that way. And honestly it makes it more disturbing that she was forcing herself to constantly be smiling in other videos and laughing when behind the scenes she's this tightly wound and clearly miserable. Like, girl! No one is holding a gun to your head! Just take a freaking break. 

As she is now, she seems very unhappy and very artificial while trying to cover it with a veneer of "I'm so happy!!! Life isn't so bad!!!! I'm just an awkward chick like every one of you but I'm still a big sis so lemme give you advice!!!!" 

Like damn I was gonna comment again about how the main turn off for me isnt her sex talk (though that does grind my gears a bit), but how fake and just inauthentic she seems, but this video just hit the nail on the head, she literally just gave me proof of what I had been suspecting

I mean, I do feel bad for her but not in a way of like omg let me support this person cuz I feel bad for them, more like omg girl get off the freaking internet and go to a goddamn therapist like I've been saying forever. At least she's exposing what kids could become if they look up to her too much and try to emulate everything she does. 

But seriously wondering what she thought posting this would do, because I think to most people it just alarmed/disturbed them.

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oh wow i only watched like 8 seconds of this video and felt so uncomfortable. i can’t believe she sat down and watched this footage repeatedly to actually edit it with the belief that this is content her audience will enjoy and upload it into the public sphere. like her perception about this whole upload must have been somewhat skewed. so much about her persona/personality (even her talking speed at times) is so rehearsed and we know this bc she’s mentioned preplanning her unfunny jokes in advance but this is so .... excessively contrived and somewhat disturbing? even though the video itself is edited to be 4 minutes long, clearly the actual uncut reel must be longer. another commenter even said “how can you do this every video” and when you think about that it’s quite jarring. can’t decide if what i’m feeling for her is sympathy or pity tbh

also her vidcon vlog was full of so many contradictions due to her need to act like she’s so special and woke and against capitalism as if her entire brand doesn’t rely on fast fashion and having her viewers purchase through her affiliate links? the parts w her teenybopper friends having pseudo-intellectual conversations were so amusing and laughable, esp when one of them was like “are you present? like i’m touching this white sheet right now...” as if that was supposed to be deep fbskdbkwbd even ashley filming those moments not for herself but for her viewers and being sooo excited about having “deep convos” (is it just me or does she like to mention having these talks whenever she does?) feel sad and inauthentic. she needs to surround herself with more authentic/mature people her age instead of high school youtubers to give her a better perception of life and the world imo 

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after seeing that video, it now make sense to me why her sense of humor is the way it is.

She seems like such a extreme perfectionist, and imo she knew people were gonna feel bad for her.

 

I can see why you would think that she knew people would feel bad for her. However, in my opinion, the reason why I think that she honestly didn’t know people would feel bad for her is because this isn’t the usual persona she’s trying to portray. Yeah, she wants to portray herself as a relatable, awkward, young woman making her way thorough life but her main schtick  since she started making videos is that she is this liberated, authentic, and independent woman and that video completely destroys that. She showed in that video completely the opposite; that she oppresses her own self, that she is inauthentic, and that she is very dependent on her twisted idea of perfection and validation from strangers.  Even if it’s in nice words, pretty much everyone in the comments is calling her fake and a try hard. 

The thing with the concept of “perfection” is that perfection is impossible in most cases and sometimes it’s even subjective. So when a person decides to be a perfectionist, it can create a damaging and twisted environment for yourself and others because you are most likely trying to achieve something that doesn’t even exist to begin with. That is why perfectionists tend to be very anxious people who work unnecessarily hard. 

Ashley’s perspective must be pretty twisted for her to post a video like that and not feel even remotely embarrassed. She’s not exactly having a mental breakdown but in all honesty, there’s too many youtubers putting up videos of them crying or having a breakdown and people always call them courageous for doing that. The thing is that the internet is not a substitute for therapy, and those videos will be up for all eternity even if they chose to delete them. Going to actual therapy, now, that is true courage because first you need to admit that you need help. 

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I think she honestly thought people would find this funny :|. Just like that time when she made a whole fashion video dedicated to picking her young and happy self apart for... daring to be happy and proud of herself despite "dressing bad" and "not being cool". In reality a lot of people didn't think she was being fair and didn't find it funny, just sad.

I think she has gotten so used to disliking herself for so long that she has lost touch of what is normal and this internet culture of "self-deprecating is funny" validated her belief that everybody else must be just faking it too. I hope this time around the people's reaction results in her having a light bulb moment of some kind and gets her to seek help instead of taking it as proof that she isn't pretending hard enough and needs to double down. 

It's high time she invested in some therapy. 

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idk how anyone could make up excuses for that video. it was genuinely really cringey, sad, and honestly, a little horrifying. this is just ONE line she rehearsed. imagine the other hundreds of lines she's rehearsed in this way??? she sounds like she's about to cry. 

but the biggest joke is ??? THE LINE WASN'T EVEN FUNNY LMFAOOOOOO

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This video on her second channel got me really anxious. She films the same thing a lot of times just to get the lines perfect and every time she says "uhm" looks like she's about to cry in frustration (someone commented that on the video and I thought it was really on point)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LosWgoSy9FI

I thought the vidcon video was kinda nice even tho she was really socially awkward and trying to fit in, but now seeing bits of the backstage, with her filming and filming the same thing repeatedly was actually kinda sad.

 

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why would she upload this video....

is she trying to unmask the reality of being a youtuber by showing her behind-the-scenes behavior? 

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I can see why you would think that she knew people would feel bad for her. However, in my opinion, the reason why I think that she honestly didn’t know people would feel bad for her is because this isn’t the usual persona she’s trying to portray. Yeah, she wants to portray herself as a relatable, awkward, young woman making her way thorough life but her main schtick  since she started making videos is that she is this liberated, authentic, and independent woman and that video completely destroys that. She showed in that video completely the opposite; that she oppresses her own self, that she is inauthentic, and that she is very dependent on her twisted idea of perfection and validation from strangers.  Even if it’s in nice words, pretty much everyone in the comments is calling her fake and a try hard. 

The thing with the concept of “perfection” is that perfection is impossible in most cases and sometimes it’s even subjective. So when a person decides to be a perfectionist, it can create a damaging and twisted environment for yourself and others because you are most likely trying to achieve something that doesn’t even exist to begin with. That is why perfectionists tend to be very anxious people who work unnecessarily hard. 

Ashley’s perspective must be pretty twisted for her to post a video like that and not feel even remotely embarrassed. She’s not exactly having a mental breakdown but in all honesty, there’s too many youtubers putting up videos of them crying or having a breakdown and people always call them courageous for doing that. The thing is that the internet is not a substitute for therapy, and those videos will be up for all eternity even if they chose to delete them. Going to actual therapy, now, that is true courage because first you need to admit that you need help. 

 

 

The reason why i think she knew is because imo being awkward and relateable is the image she wants to portray. It isn't the first time she has edited in moment/s that shows her being vulnerable, and she's always seem very consumed in beating the viewers in pointing out her flaws. I don't know if that make sense but that's how i see it.

And i think it's more so she knew people feel bad because of the work she put in, that they admire her effort, and probably not pity her.

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I know we shouldn't armchair diagnose but that video makes her seem very mentally unhealthy to me. It's very obsessive and seems almost compulsive. I'm legitimately worried after watching that... I feel like she has some kind of anxiety or something that she needs to address? 

I can understand youtubers refilming something maybe 2-3 times but she sat there repeating like FIVE WORDS over and over and over again. And then the fact that she does this for 10-20 minute videos? It really concerns me. I just can't see it as normal.

Feels even more odd to think of her doing stuff like randomly interjecting penis jokes into a clothes video, then following it up with "HAHA I should edit this out" but then you realize she filmed that penis joke 20 times before settling on one. 

I'm not at all trying to make fun of her or anything, I think she's a sweet girl, but I feel concerned for her. 

I think Ashley has some crippling self-esteem issues and places a lot of pressure on herself. I think she feels like she needs to be a certain way to be liked by people, which is not true! Even if she dialed back her personality and jokes to 50% or 25% I think her audience would still like her. There are plenty of chill/down to earth youtubers who do just fine. 

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that video... she is a full blown psycho. 

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