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New video up called taking myself on a date <3

So nice seeing her alone and focusing on herself!

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This last video was lovely! Her outfit was sooo pretty and I love the idea and concept of it all <3

 

May this be a really direct indirect to her breakup with David?

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HELL YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH\

good job ashley, focus on yourself for now :) 

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Yay, I'm so proud of her!

Even though she didn't directly mention the breakup in the video, she seems like she's realized a lot about herself. She admitted that she was so afraid to be alone and see herself as a full person without a boyfriend. I think she even alluded to the fact that she would accept love from just any guy, since she felt unworthy of love. I think she's realizing David is not as great as she thought. I'm really proud of her :alpacacrush:

I hope she doesn't get lonely and get back with him. There are plenty of better guys out there, or even yet, I'm sure there's plenty of girls/guys who will be friends with her. She was always much smarter and more interesting than him. 

Edit: In the description of the video she wrote "Rant about love and being single and relationship pressure in your 20's" so I am pretty sure she is confirming she broke up. She probably just isn't ready to talk about it on camera, which is understandable. Still so happy for her!! 

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i've only seen like the first two minutes of her new video and though i hope the rest of it will be alright, i can't stand her humblebragging about how hard and how much she works 🙄 plus that floppy headband dangling in front of her forehead is super annoying and not cute. neither is her makeup or the rest of her outfit - whenever she dresses like this (and that's very often) it usually reminds me of a little girl with plastic rhinestone costume jewelry. i'm assuming she's probably regretting featuring david so heavily in her previous videos and is hoping that this video will smoothly insinuate it. i thought them taking two trips (sf and ny) so close together wasn't the best idea — they already discovered that they are incompatible in traveling yet rushed into another pretty big trip so quickly. lmao throwback to her sf video with her r/thisisdeep ~maybe this is love~ talk. 

She restocked her online thrift boutique but the vast majority is size XS or S. I only saw a handful of items out of the 30+ she showed on her story that were above a size M. I thought she said she was going to try to thrift more items for sizes bigger than her? Not really seeing a change or effort at all...

 

it seems like she only ever restocks when she's running low on pocket cash or smth lmao she's so inconsistent and lazy with this store, in how often she updates and the quality of how she takes photos, lists product, etc. it's mainly markups of old mall brand items like f21 or american eagle or the gifted items she received for free and got tired of. 

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glad Ashley is the on path of self-care and self-improvement. seemed like she only dated david to satisfy her own needs and societal pressure. 

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I'm so glad, she deserves to spoil herself she works herself crazy. This video brought me back to why I really loved watching her, just some fun time seeing her enjoying her interests.

 

Also, is she wearing contacts? I don't think I've ever seen her wear them before

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I skimmed through the video but it still made me kind of sad:/.   I hope she’ll quickly move on and enjoy her self company more. 

I’m glad she didn’t make a “we broke up” video and cried in front of the camera. Her idea of addressing it was the right choice.

 

*Her headband was a little distracting and the whole time i wanted to flick the fabric off her bangs. 

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i just finished watching her newest video and i have to say that it's the first time in a while where i've actually enjoyed her content lol. she seemed to be actually enjoying herself as opposed to her older vlog-style videos where a lot of her happy-go-lucky attitude seemed performative and contrived. 

i also think that her comment section is just a huge hugbox...people are commenting on the video saying that they cried at how heartfelt and endearing it was. getting a constant stream of positive feedback that validates your past content (even when it's not the best) doesn't motivate anyone to improve their videos. there are a few people saying that they enjoyed this video much more than her old ones with david, so i hope she takes notice of that and makes more similar ones :)

she also only made one sex joke at the end of the video, which is definitely an improvement....baby steps i guess

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This video was a little bit tough to watch but it was lovely. It's 'good' to see that they have broken up, and it seems like she is taking the high road so far by not really talking about the reasons why. I'm not sure if the break up was her idea because she seems upset but she has some good points about needing to spend time on yourself.

Also whenever Ashley speaks about working hard, it never seems like a humble brag to me. I guess it really stems from her upbringing. Her parents are pretty successful in their fields, and strict. She probably feels like she always needs to hammer away at something. And it is really obvious she put a lot of effort into school and youtube. She needs to take some time to relax as well. I'm hopeful and looking forward to her next videos.

It's also nice to see she is getting a lot of support in the comments now. It's hard to find a comment that is sad about the break up, a lot of people are supporting her with stories of their own heartbreak. It's also important to recognize a lot of her fans are younger, they only see the cute videos and they might not see some red flags that older people see..

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I really liked her newest video. To me, that's truly her being a "relatable youtuber": showing awkward conversations with strangers, going to a concert by herself, just sharing her unfiltered thoughts and talking about her life. It was really refreshing to see, and it kind of gave me the confidence and reassurance to do things alone and not feel self-conscious or be held back by stigmas.

I can see her content definitely improving after breaking up with David (hopefully they don't get back together because she's honestly too good for that annoying, pretentious POS). Although, I'm scared she will throw herself into work and not take the time to focus on herself and mental health. 

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She just changed the thumbnail image. Guess it wasn't clear for some younger people that she and him aren't together anymore. 

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I haven't watched the video yet so I don't know the overall quality of it but I think this way of addressing it is classy. They weren't together that long so I don't think it warrants an entire video where she talks about him. I think it would also be tacky and inappropriate considering how much she overshared whenever she referenced to him. But she did feature him prominently enough that it's really nice to be provided with a confirmation.

Ashley can be really mature and self-aware. When she's frank and honest, her talks can be really refreshing. I'm hoping that when I watch the video later, that will be the side that she shows throughout.

Breakups are tough. David was a tool and I hope they don't get back together but I still feel bad for Ashley. I think she should focus on making friends

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I liked the video more than a lot of her recent stuff, but unfortunately I think for me I've just hit a point where I can't unsee the warts so to speak. My thoughts:

1. I'm glad she's taking time to learn to be by herself and be happy by herself--I know serial monogamist people who just went from relationship to relationship (despite many of them being unhealthy) just to never be alone, so I'm glad Ashley is trying her best to avoid turning out like that. THAT BEING SAID, I really, really, really want her to find some damn friends. Because it must be hard going through a break up alone, and also because the options shouldn't be reduced solely to "alone" and "with my SO". I just think her life would be so positively impacted by having even just one real, good friend who she could rely on. It was also pretty alarming to hear that she wanted friends since she had none in college so she went on Tinder to meet guys--there are a lot of concerns I have with that, and I hope she recognizes that that's definitely NOT the best way to make friends. I hope she tries to go out to social events (like movie nights, with other film nerds!) and forces herself to meet people even if it's a bit uncomfortable at first. Again, I do think it's great that she's learning to be alone and having a good time, I just want her to make at least one friend in addition to that.

2. Oh the plant......how many flies does she have in her apartment from not washing the dishes for two weeks? And if they're fruit flies, there are many, many ways to get rid of them (god knows I mistakenly forgot to take out the trash before I left one weekend in a hot NYC summer so I've been there) but carnivorous plants are pretty low on the list, if they're on there at all. I have a feeling she just thought it would be cool, because practically speaking I'm pretty sure carnivorous plants eat like one fly and then digest it very, very slowly. So, not the best solution. I wondered if that was why the cashier didn't respond when she shared why she was getting them--not because she was oversharing, but because it was kind of like buying a cup when there's water pouring in from your roof but the cup guy still wants to make a sale. 

3. When I first started watching her, I thought she seemed relatively mature and funny for her age, but now I really see her youth, especially when she was talking about certain things like love/relationships. I felt really anxious when I was 21 to be in a relationship...but that was only because I had never really dated before and was worried I would be alone forever. She's 21 and has had three relationships, at least one of which was almost a year? Idk I'm not sure why she's so pressed to be in a relationship, or why she felt even at 18 that her clock was already running down......but then again, I think many anxieties don't make sense from the outside. I just hope she really does learn to love herself rather than seeking external validation, but I do wonder if that will be possible since as another person mentioned her comment section is just full of overwhelming gushing support, and she seemed to not handle criticism well what with the deletion of comments on David's room makeover video. Time will tell, but she definitely has a lot of work to do on herself and I hope she makes progress on it. (Also, I think she would greatly benefit from seeing a therapist, as I feel most people would. Not meant to be a dig, but seriously I think a therapist would do wonders for her mental health.)

4. Why does she continuously make MD sound like bumfuck? I honestly don't get it. If she didn't specify she was from Maryland I would think she was from a rural countryside (which btw Ellicott City is not). Maybe this is a silly thing to be kind of annoyed about, but it's just frustrating because she makes it sound like her upbringing was kind of poor girl growing up in the countryside when the reality is that LA Nordstroms having Gucci etc is an anomaly, not that MD Nordstroms are so cheap and odd, and according to GG her father makes $300k+ annually (and her mother works as well), meaning they live and have always lived VERY comfortably. I know MD well and her area is a very, very nice one compared to some other counties and cities in MD that are much poorer (even the clip she showed shows houses that are VERY large and that city in MD is not cheap real estate). Had she said she was from another area in MD like Wheaton or something, I would cut her some slack. But her hometown is known to be affluent, so it just gives her words a disingenuous tinge to me now that I am more aware of her actual financial background versus how she likes to portray herself. 

5. Saying Mumford & Sons is great is not a "hot take", they are pretty well-known, well-liked, and have been mainstream for a while. More "I'm so different from others while actually still being pretty basic" imho.

I still like Ashley well enough, but I definitely see her imperfections a lot more clearly now and one of the main things that bothers me (now that David seems to be gone--good riddance) is how she tries to downplay and hide her privilege, especially growing up (well that and her "I'm so different from other girls" thing she does every now and then). I just think it's pretty crappy to be like ughhhh I'm so poor/I was so poor/I only know this cheapskate life when in reality it's a choice you're able to make since you have the money to live luxuriously if you wanted, and are kind of using that angle as a relatable shtick. Just be like "Listen, I buy the cheap stuff because it's great, I love it, and I love the money to stay in my damn bank account." It's a personal pet peeve of mine when Youtubers/anyone doesn't admit that they had privileges/are lucky to have lived a certain way and I wish more people would just call a spade a spade and admit they had a lot of good fortune in life due to their circumstances. 

Also this video seemed very average to me, not especially interesting to watch or listen to--I'm not sure if I've just lost interest or if the quality was less than some of her better videos. But her comment section was eating it up, so perhaps she'll move more into vlogging as it seems to be what her audience wants from her. (I just hope if she does that, she'll push herself to be more creative in her filmmaking technique.)

Sorry it's so long (and most likely no one cares what I think lol), but this video kind of summed up for me a lot of stuff about Ashley I've been feeling recently. All in all, I'm glad she seems not terribly distraught over the break up, I hope it's over for good and they don't get back together, I hope she continues with better content, I hope she values herself as a person more, and I hope she finds a good friend who will have her back and also begins to see a therapist. 

(But still, MAJOR improvement from all recent videos she had made featuring David)

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y'all notice this male-sized shoe? I noticed it because of this comment. In a way I wonder if she meant something by not choosing to pick it up and move it away from the camera

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