I've debated about posting this topic for awhile, but I feel like it's a strange situation and I'm not sure how often other people have to deal with things like this or if I even have the right to be angry.
Let's call her "C". C is about 3 months younger than I am, but she was a grade beneath me.
In middle school and my freshman year, I did a lot of drastic things to my appearance. I shaved the whole underside of my head and I shaved off my eyebrows & drew them on. I would draw a small star on my cheek with eyeliner and fill it with colorful eyeshadow. I wore wigs, bright eyeshadow, "goth" clothing- mind you, I'm in my twenties, so this was before it was sort of EVERYWHERE. That's partially why I'm upset. I'm in my 20's. Why the hell is this even a thing?
I met C in my sophomore year, she had dreadlocks and she was sort of arsty. We connected over anime, video games, and I got her into astrology. We grew pretty close, pretty quickly. I spent entire weekends at her house, we eventually ended up heading the Social Justice team at our school as president & vice president. She inherited some of my big band tees, we shared makeup, and she even started drawing the star on her cheek and filling it in with eyeshadow and pierced her eyebrow like mine.
The issues started out very subtle, but soon into our relationship - something I just dismissed because we were good friends and I didn't want to read too much into it. One day, I left a giant beaded bracelet with black & purple swirls on it at her house. (I'm really guilty of doing this since childhood, leaving stuff at friend's houses absentmindedly- I've since learned my lesson) I hadn't even noticed the bracelet missing from my collection until I saw her wearing the beads on a "handmade" necklace. It was an awkward situation, but I didn't say anything. Maybe she didn't know it was my bracelet? Her mother had all sorts of strange jewelry, maybe she thought it was her's?
Fast forward a bit, to about a year out of school, we're friendly enough, she calls me one day to tell me that she "accidentally" shaved her eyebrows off. I sort of laughed because I've had quite a few friends who have had eyebrow faux pas while plucking or shaving, so I thought nothing of it. I guess I shouldn't have been surprised that she kept shaving them off.
Anyway, she moves in with me a short while later and blah blah blah. Things are going good at first, we have mini-shopping trips to the city, playing dress-up together, etc. She has a friend tattoo the star on her cheek in my living room while I'm at work. I guess I'm sort of awkwardly flattered?
Then, she pisses off her mom, and then her boss, both of which are paying her share of the bills, and they cut her off. As a result, she's depressed and bitter and not really doing anything. No cleaning, not working, not paying bills, etc. Meanwhile, I'm working midnights and going to class during the day. Ultimately, we lose the apartment and I'm out $800 because the electric bill was in my name. We go our separate ways, no longer friends, moving back home.
We reconnect, begrudgingly at first, about three years ago- three years after the first incident. Now she has the side of her head shaved (which is trendy at this point) and has her labret done. She doesn't really say sorry, but I do, because I felt like I handled the situation like a bitch. We're back in full-swing, talking about makeup, etc. She seems to have really matured, she's held a job in a manager position for two years, she's had a stable roommate for a year, and she's still one of the few people in my town that I liked.
Don't ask me why, but I foolishly had her move in with me again. This time I didn't need her, but I wanted her company, and like I said, she had "changed". I was only half-wrong, she was PERFECT for six months. Paid everything on time and we had so much fun. I have a nice office job at this point, and I'm doing really well for myself. I was wearing wigs every day for over a year to grow out my hair, still eyebrowless, and pierced.
I guess at some point, she gets depressed about how much how often she works at her job, and how she makes so much less money than I did, even though she's a manager, because she works in retail. She blows her entire paycheck at an anime convention, and tells me she'll give me the whole next check. When the next paycheck rolls around, she fakes a suicide attempt (no, I'm not joking). Not knowing this was a fake attempt, I was upset and concerned. She tells me it's not about me, and I just assume it's something personal. She abruptly moves out, shorting me $250. She later explicitly told friends that she deliberately took half the amount necessary to kill an average person, that is how I found out. When I say "fake suicide attempt", I mean that she took 13.5 advil and she's 300+ pounds. That's a stomach ache, not a cry for help.
Flash-forward to now, we are most definitely not friends. Ironically, she was fired from her manager job for stealing. I'm pretty active on IG. She, until recently, was not. About a week ago, she deletes all of her less popular and less cute pictures and spams her page with tons of edits that don't even look like her, tagging "kawaii" this and that. Suddenly, she's wearing a lot of wigs and drawing fake freckles on (a trend which I find very annoying . . .I am ginger, & I have freckles), wearing necklaces of mine that I guess she stole when she moved out, and random "kawaii" accessories I owned while she lived with me. What she didn't steal, she bought.
She makes wire-wrap jewelry, which she started doing right after I showcased some custom wraps a friend made personally for me, and she named her shop after an idea that told her I wanted to name my makeup brand one day (back when I was in beauty school, when we lived together the first time). She even stole some words from my IG profile, as well as the format. I finally caved and blocked her & her shop, but I'm public so she just has to log out to see my stuff.
This is, and isn't, relevant, but I am a short, small, white girl. C is a full-bodied, tall, black girl. I think it's difficult to perceive what she's doing as copying sometimes, because she's a different skin color than I am. And because of her skin color, she is deemed as even more "unique" than I am because there are plenty of white girls who are into goth and kawaii shit. We're a dime a dozen on the internet, but she isn't stealing from them. She's stealing from me. No matter what her skin color is- she's a thief, a shitty friend, and a copycat.
Because she is so much more active on other social media websites than I am, I'm sure other people have no idea that she's stealing from me, or might even assume that I'm stealing from her.
I know she's toxic. I'm not asking if I should be friends with her again, because that is out of the question. I am asking how I should handle this, or if there's anything I can even do?
Please don't take any race offense to this.
I know many people on this forum are into this sort of fashion, so I thought I might use this as a place to sort of vent.
I'm sorry it's so long.