• Announcements

    • Negative Reputation   08/03/19

      We've heard you loud and clear - negative reputation is back. Remember that it's still against the rules to complain about being downvoted - if you think someone's mass-downvoting posts or otherwise abusing the reputation system, DM a mod and we will take care of it.

Search Filters


 Search Filters

Content tagged 'relationships'

Found 0 results


Results

  1. People start dating at quite a young age nowadays and they usually break up pretty fast but through the many young couples that I've seen a few that have survived and now they live happily with their kids 
    What are your thoughts about middle schoolers dating or high schoolers? What are the chances of them lasting?
  2. Hey guys,
    So, I just finished reading the "Copy-Cats" thread (interesting read), and it got me thinking about sh*tty friendship experiences, one friendship I can think of in particular springs to mind.  it was actually quite nice to relate to others experiences, I guess it's something that doesn't get aired so much when you have mutual friends or have been friends for a long time.
    so anyway;  
    Have you ever had a moment where you've had to sit and ask yourself "why am I this persons friend?"
    Interpret this how you want, I'm in the mood for reading PULL members experiences
     
  3. Edit
    Don’t want him to find this even though I highly doubt he will 
     
    if you still want the story message me or something 
  4. I made a terrible mistake and I need an outlet, so I'm using this here. This is going to sound like some fanfiction, because I want to be less afraid of communicating my thoughts.
    When I was younger and more naive, I felt really damn lonely. I had just lost my friend group because I didn't have a phone to communicate with them, moreover I didn't bother trying to further our relationships. So I was back to the initial loneliness. I pulled out my laptop, browsed around the internet and later found an invitation to a Skype group on a blogging platform full with people with mutual interests. They were people my age and thus in a similar stage of life as I was. They expressed everything they struggled with openly, so I offered them advice and encouragement, which has made me become well-liked in the group. 
    As it went on, I frequently received messages from the creator of the Skype group. I will call her K. She was a friendly and witty girl, but sadly suffered from depression and was somehow unable to make friends in the real world. K seemed to be accepting of her circumstances and never bothered to try doing anything different than spending her time on the internet. I sound spiteful, but it's hard not to be upset, as I link her to the cause of my anxiety problems, even if it was actually my fault.
    I was never very interested in her, as she seemed like the kind of person to be loaded with personal issues, and I didn't want to deal with that. It would require me to be especially intimate with her. Despite everything, we kept talking to each other because I was understanding of her and our senses of humor were compatible. 
    Eventually, I became interested in a girl other than her in the Skype group, C. Finding something to talk about always came easy to us and we weren't afraid to talk about more challenging and underlying issues with the world and everything. We even sent gifts to each other every now and then. I fantasized about kissing C and had dreams about being intimate with her, and before I could ask her if we ever wanted to meet each other, I was approached by K.
    She told me that I had saved her from committing suicide and that she had developed a crush on me. This was entirely unprecedented and I didn't know what to have of it. I couldn't reject her! What if she spiraled into an even deeper depression? If she killed herself, it would be my fault. I tried to see the benefits of this relationship. I was confident C wouldn't reciprocate my feelings anyway, so it seemed more appealing to avoid potential conflict and instead date K, who had just excitedly confessed to me. 
    K declared to the Skype group that we were now boyfriend and girlfriend. I realized it was a mistake when I noticed that C began to remove herself from me. In the face of that problem, I forced myself to think that I had actually loved K all along. To nourish our relationship, I was affectionate with her every day, until it would prove to be useless when she broke up with me two weeks later. Her reasoning was that she couldn't stand the pressure of "feeling something for me". She was overwhelmed being loaded by my affection and became irritated. We didn't talk for a few days. 
    I realized I had become attached to her. That's good, I thought. I finally feel something for her. "To win back her love", I heroically dedicated her the song I had initially played for C, and became successful with it. In the next few months, we dated off and on. I thought it was bold of me to suffer just to win her attention and affection. Usually whenever K got angry with me or told me off, I had an anxiety attack that would last at least an hour. I was absolutely delusional! She boasted about being an unfeeling sociopath, she became a bit more vocal about me constantly expressing my feelings towards her. It became the only thing I could focus on, I slacked off in school and ruined my good grades. I always ended up hurt because of her attitude, joking about wanting to die and generally being a negative and unpleasant person. I didn't care, I didn't care about anything. 
    K proposed a meeting in February. Why am I so anxious about meeting her, I thought. Well, I might just be excited. This is a pretty big thing. What am I going to do after meeting her? I think I might just kill myself after this. I don't have anything else to do, anyway. I booked a flight and landed with the plane an hour later. I ran towards her as she sprinted and threw herself into my open arms. K was absolutely delirious with joy, but I was a nervous wreck. Her parents drove us to K's home. She leaned on my shoulder as she hugged me tight. I almost burst a vein before meeting you, I told her. When we arrived, I had a conversation with her parents. I got along with them even better than with K herself! 
    And, uh, we mostly spent our time on the internet, because she refused to go outside. She was willing to show me a few sights two days later, when she dissociated due to a mental illness. The meeting was too much for her. I was almost always on the brink of crying each moment I spent with her and finally broke down in tears at a diner the day before departure. I can't do it, I said. Fuck, I can't do it anymore. The next morning K's parents drove me to the airport. It was terrible. I remember her disappointed, yet cold face. 
    She stopped replying to my messages. I suffered for a month, stopped caring for myself. My grades were pathetic, my parents frustrated and the mood was tense. K messaged me and it started all over again. This time I made sure I would stay in contact. I got myself a phone and we wrote each other every day. Whenever the phone buzzed, I wasn't able to resist the urge to reply to her text during the lesson, leading me into complications with the teachers. I ended up having to repeat the grade. I was devastated, but I kept going with K.
    One year had passed since her confession. I limited contact with her March of this year. I stopped talking to her altogether. I briefly came back to her once in May and June respectively, and disappeared again after a week or two. I didn't tell her why, because I was terrified of her judgement every single time I talked to her. I'm still terrified. I blocked her now. I can't tell her anything right now. I'm trying to forget about everything that happened in the past year. 
    Still, whenever I find something funny on the internet, I automatically think about sending it to her. I'm trying to recover by forming new friendships, one of which was successful. 
    It felt like one big near death experience. 
    Any thoughts?
  5. Hello, so my ex whom I don’t have any real hard feelings for has been acting differently and he used to party A LOT when we were together but now he never does and he stopped drinking etc (which I know is a good thing but it’s weird to me how much of an extreme change he made) and I’m a little worried that I may have broken him? Or like he’s depressed? 
    I don’t want to talk to him about it because I don’t really want to talk to him lol but do guys (or girls) change this much after one breakup 
     
  6. I started dating this really nice guy and it's been a little more than a month. I met him at my work since he was a regular customer and we clicked really well. I added him on my typical socials (Snapchat, Instagram, etc) then out of nowhere this girl added me and messaged me. 
    She seemed fine and just said hi and wondered how I knew this guy I'm seeing. So I answer her questions but they start getting kind of specific and personal, to the point it's creepy (when I'm planning to see him, how long we've been seeing each other, what time I'm trying to see him, where i work/go to school etc) I start answering vaguely or lying all together. 
    I ended up showing him screenshots and asked who this girl was. He explained to me that she's his ex they broke up 2 months ago and she didn't take it well and has been stalking his social media and causing drama with his friend group ever since.
    I really like this guy and he means a lot to me. I don't wanna dump him bc of this. Every time it's happened he confronts her and tells her to fuck off. But it's been a month and this girl has been making dummy accounts both on Instagram and on Snapchat to send me harassing messages and stalk my stories. 
    I've blocked her every time but then after a while she pops up again (all her main accounts usually have 'jen' in it) and recently we both found out she's been getting her friends to join in on stalking and harassing. I'm not really sure what to do at this point.



  7. So I work at a Starbucks and so obviously a lot of my coworkers are my age; 18-25 year olds with the oldest coworkers being the manager and assistant manager. We're all young and we goof around and have fun and everything and I like it but sometimes I feel like it's too comfortable and it just feels like high school w/ dramatic ppl and cliques? Idk if I'm just maybe overreacting about this, but in my, only 1 year, working at sbux:
    I had a crush on a coworker but got over it when he rejected me (totally understood and I didn't really had deep feelings for him anyways, I just thought he was cute). Coworkers start telling me that he actually liked me back and wanted to hook up and said other vulgar stuff about me. When I confronted him abt it he got so mad at me and we had a big fight in private. This was back in December and we sort of patched things up when he apologized.I took some time off work to focus on school and my second job in child care for about 2 months. When I returned to my reg. schedule ppl were treating me different, ignoring me, stop chatting, and w/ the shift leads as well kind of being weird and leaving me to do all the difficult busiest work. I find out someone started a rumor about me bullying a new girl because I was jealous my former crush liked her (I literally saw her 1 day for half my shift before I took a leave for 2 months, and I had no idea what her name was, nor that he had a crush on her bc I was gone for so long)Found out later by some coworkers who knew me better that the coworker I liked before (we'll just call him C) and the girl (lets call her A)I was apparently bullying and being rude to helped spread those rumors around work and complained about me almost all the time. Anybody who didn't know about me crushing on C found out about it and about our fight and I was so mortified.I talked to our manager about it in private and explained what they were doing, and how it didn't make me feel comfortable to go to work, and that I wanted to transfer. She apologized that I was experiencing this and said she had a hunch something was going on and that she would talk to both of them and reprimand them. A ended up being forced to transfer but mostly bc she was discovered to be dating another one of the shift leads, and C had his hours cut in a way that I wouldn't be scheduled w/ him, but if I was, he wouldn't be allowed to bring up anything personal.Everything is quiet now after that, but the damage is done. A still comes around almost all the time still to our sbux location to just eat a bunch of the food in the back and hang out w/ her bf (our shift lead) so when we need him he's not around and just distracted by his ABG girlfriend.There's a lot more to talk about but I don't want to make this intro too long and I honestly don't know how to handle this bc its emotionally draining, and I'm already searching for a place to transfer or new work