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Ashley reminds me of those grown ass men who need to remind you constantly that they, *gasp*, drink lots of alcohol and know so much about beer and drinking and whatever. It's like she's dying to prove that she's part of Team Adulthood. However, mature people don't speak that way because the implication is drinking and having sex are things adults generally do. It's like she's flexing having sex on her young audience. "Hey, you can be fashionable BUT nerdy! You can be nerdy BUT have lots of sex (like me)!" Duh, Ashley, we (real) adults already know that, kthx.
This is the issue here. She's basically lying against them by omission with that Tik Tok. We've seen some of the men she's (indirectly) told us she's intimate with, so the assumption would be she's had painful sex with perhaps one or both of them, but didn't want to be "rude" and say anything. If she's so "awkward" but also so "girl boss" as she claims, she would not be grinning and bearing painful sex. But she lacks self-awareness. Here's the deal, no one should harm you, but if you can't take ownership of your needs, you're not mature. If you're not mature, you should not be taking part in a sexual relationship. Period. And I'm not talking about age—age and maturity are different. I know many mature people Ashley's age, people who have had children at Ashley's age and are raising them wonderfully, people who work and take care of themselves at Ashley's age. But as someone who has almost 10 years on Ashley, who has experienced unsavory things in life due to bad choices, you need to own your life and grow from your mistakes. The Amazon incident was a perfect chance for Ashley to "not be like everyone else, hurhur," and make a video calling herself out. That was a great opportunity for her to take ownership of her mistakes, and ask her following to hold her accountable. And she blew it. And that, my friends, is one of the many reasons Ashley is both immature and fake. She was aware enough to know it was wrong (took down the video), but didn't have the balls to talk about it. Premeditated and sneaky. She often forgets there are real adults watching her who will call her on her bullshit. Please move this girl to the snowflakes, Jesus.
From what you're saying, I come from a similar background, minus growing up in a wealthy area. But my parents knew which neighborhoods had the better districts/schools, and we transferred there. My class had a similar number of National Merit Scholars. I passed 10 APs and cut two years off university, thereby graduating early. I'm no genius. It's just what all the kids in AP classes did, so it was the "norm" at my (rich, mostly white and Asian) school lol. I don't see her as particularly high achieving, just a product of a privileged background. There's monetary privilege, color privilege, but there is also educational privilege—having opportunities, being given a chance—that can propel you in society.
Maybe this is too harsh, but Arick came off as a bit of a deadbeat to me. He doesn't seem to have a hint of what he wants to do with his life. It's not just about not going to university, the way he moved just to be with her, didn't have any back-up plans, then moved back rubs me the wrong way. Not quite sure why that level of wishy-washy is attractive to her.
Yeah... Her dates for JET don't add up. Maybe she did it to look like she had more experience than she did? She had to have started JET in 2013. That's really odd. I mean, did she not think someone (an potential employer) wouldn't catch that??
I have doubts about her Education degree too, but if you complete two degrees, you have a choice of which group you walk with during graduation (at least in my experience). So, she could have completed one, but chose to walk with the Japanese Studies graduates.
Simple: He's Korean lol. Honestly, the weight training and make-up don't make her less of a Kboo. Some people are honestly content to marry someone purely for optics. Don't want that for myself, but there are a lot of people who do it.
^Good points. As a language learner (not Korean), I always wondered why she didn't have a Korean channel. If she's as good as she claims, tons of Koreans would follow her, and she'd have two solid channels as a good source of revenue. I think she's one of those people who know basic conversational words but can't tackle deep topics. I wonder too how she connected with her husband. There are a lot of couples out there that can't communicate in one language though. Depends on the kind of relationship you're seeking, I suppose. If you don't mind something that's surface level in regards to emotions, a relationship like theirs might suit.
Mandarin speaker here. Tones apply to names, and I have never met someone surnamed Wuxi lol Lan might be the surname he's going for, but we all know he's not Chinese, so whateva. Finished skim-reading this thread yesterday. I've never seen such hot messes in my life. Like, seriously? Do you really think you can be transracial? Gawd.
It kills me that she called it "A Real Day in my Life in Japan." Like... as opposed to a fake day?? Lol, I know it's already been touched on, but I find that so hilarious. Like, adding "real" to the title doesn't even help her from an SEO standpoint, either. Slightly OT, but I've been watching a lot of Seigo & Bren lately (a gay Japanese-American couple on YT). Bren is 25, took Japanese in HS, did not (I don't believe...) finish university, and currently works as a Japanese <-> English translator. Now, I don't know much Japanese, but Bren seems like he's knocking on fluent's door. I feel like he's who Kelly thinks she is when she talks about her Japanese skill level.
As someone in the ESL/education field, the sky in the limit: Study a language during undergrad -> ESL teaching certificate -> teach and get experience overseas and/or domestically (ALT, after-school teaching gig, public school teaching, etc.)/get teaching certificate from your country -> teach at university level -> get a master's in education/ESL -> do language research: Option #1: Continue language research. Be an academic (not so easy, but possible if you want it) Option #2: Get better and better university teaching jobs Option #3: Get into project management within an educational setting. Manage education-related projects with teacher, advisors, and a variety of school staff. Option #4: Get a technical (like coding) certificate. Get into educational technology. Option #5: Teach online part-time or full-time. Do in conjunction with Option #6, if possible or needed. Option #6: Become a freelance translator. Option #7: Get an education-related PHD -> Get an even better university teaching job -> Become an educational leader (can also be done with just a Master's Option #8: Become a curriculum specialist (write curriculum, but don't have to teach) Option # 5 billion: Use your damn head and research your career options when you enter a field.
I think the situation is an amalgamation of many things. The wedding, Kim's friendship with Chris, AND general j-vlogger dynamics changing. 1) The wedding: I don't think the wedding/bridesmaid issue was the catalyst. Something had to have happened before that, because it seems like the straw that broke the camel's back. Something someone would only do if there was mounting frustration. 2) Tokyo Creative v. House of Hur: Someone mention Chris getting kicked out, and I wonder about that too. I remember when Tokyo Creative started, and Chris was really the face of the business. He seemed to be taking it seriously, seemed like it was a big venture for him that he was going to spend years to try and make successful. Then he leaves and runs between Korea, Japan and Indonesia with Sunny...? Doesn't add up to me. House of Hur seems like a stupid concept, tbh. I can't even take the name seriously. Can you imaging trying to have a conversation with someone and referencing House of Hur without sounding derpy? lol 3) Sharla: I'm not surprised Sharla would choose Chris & Sunny over Kim Dao. I find Sharla to have a mask of kindness. I suspect she's not a very nice person in person (but that's for her thread). But in relation to this situation, you have to understand that Sharla's visa comes from Tokyo Creative. Although Chris seems to want to put his energy into House of Hur, he more than likely still has some kind of (background?) influence at Tokyo Creative. 4) Chris & Sunny: I haven't watched their videos in about a month, but every video I've seen of them seems stiff and forced. There seems to be zero attraction between them, and I've caught Sunny—for a split second—almost recoiling when Chris comes close or wants to touch her. I think she saw him as a "Boss Boy" in regards to Tokyo Creative and thought, "Hmm, in a practical sense, maybe I should just get with this guy because he seems to know how to manage a company." Honestly though, his ventures don't appear to be that profitable (I mean, have you seen Tokyo Creative's views...?) I wonder how long Sunny can sustain this relationship, and I wonder how they are when the camera's off. Whether they break up within a year or get married and have to split the hard way, I don't see it lasting. Their trying to force this relationship on camera just makes it easier to see the complete lack of chemistry. But well, Sunny's Indonesian views seem to love it!