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  1. Catswithtails added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    I think it’s a deep self image issue. She doesn’t put in major work to build on her potential towards exceptional, because she deeply believes at the end of the day she isn’t exceptional in any way whatsoever. I truly think she looks at herself as helplessly talentless and unoriginal. This may very well be true, or her massive confidence issues are the only thing actually stopping her from being who she dreams of being. 
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  2. Catswithtails added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    I’m autistic and a recovered compulsive liar. You are not a bad person for doubting a consistent liar. That’s not about your views on autism, but your experiences with Kenna.
    When I was just diagnosed, I switched a lot between how I really naturally act and the way I’ve learned to mask. One moment I could act “normal” or how people know me, the other I was comfortable enough to just be me.
    It’s entirely possible that Kenna felt relieved and more confident to drop her mask when she was filming her video, while she felt more under pressure on instagram so the masking came back. Autistic people tend to mask more or less based on stress levels. I know a compulsive liar when I see one. Big sign: lying more when you get caught instead of just owning up to be done with it, because the lying is a compulsive response to stress that you can’t just stop without treatment.
    In other words: her behaviour could 100% be autism, 100% lies or something in between. I’m very grateful I wasn’t looked at by so many people when I went through that process of finding out you’ve been someone else your entire life and what that means for the way you go about things and your future. You’re not a bad person for doubting her. Keep distance, don’t trust her on sight, stay supportive for autistic people in general.
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  3. Catswithtails added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    I have a suspicion that Kenna reaching fame while she wasn’t mentally in great health caused her development to stunt. I think she was bullshitting a bit at the time and dealing with a lot of self image issues (common in autistic girls since they hardly ever get diagnosed but are incredibly aware they don’t fit in), and when she got famous, she became too scared to get real and risk making mistakes to grow and mature. I’m an autistic girl and I know getting famous as a teen would’ve completely destroyed my ability to self improve, because there’s an army of people watching my every move and mistake.
    This of course isn’t an excuse, just an observation. She still has a tendency to cover up and avoid conflict which shows she has a long way to go. Now at least she has some answers about why she is who she is and she has a place to start. It’s incredibly important that she doesn’t see diagnosis as the final station, but a new puzzle piece to become her best self. She needs to work with professionals to handle her autism and toxic (coping) traits. That of course means she has to want to be a better person. 
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