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  1. 4thetea added a post in a topic mikan.mandarin   

    I stated in my original post that I don't think she handled it well. So yeah she should've ignored it, completely agree with you there. 
    But I just can't agree that she's responsible for other people's sensitivities. Society assigns responsibility when someone has a following but what if someone doesn't want to take on that extra responsibility? Why should they follow YOUR idea of what's a good example? Like I personally wouldn't want to have to always make sure I'm catering to everyone. I'd want to live my life and if people don't like it they can stop engaging. (This isn't directed specifically at you btw, these are just the questions I ask myself when topics like this come up. And if I'm missing something I'm open to a different opinion)
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  2. 4thetea added a post in a topic mikan.mandarin   

    My guess is the money. Donations from Younow and Youtube + the amount of watch time livestreaming racks up. I doubt it's because she truly enjoys connecting with her fans. 
    This one I actually kind of get but that may just be because I'm a "bitch" too. Like taking Mikan as a person out of the equation I'd hate it if people were constantly commenting on my body and projecting their insecurities (which that question totally is let's be honest). Like again if I did all this work to get into fashion school and someone sent me something basically saying it's because I'm skinny I'd feel disrespected and annoyed that yet again my body is more important than me as a person. I'm not saying Mikan's response is a good one but I also thinks it's weird how influencers are expected to coddle any insecure followers they have? (Just my personal opinion)
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  3. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    I actually like this video. So glad there was no attempt at ASMR. 
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  4. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    And who are these ignorant and misinformed pieces of evidence being levied against? Kenna or every single female with ASD? I tried to make it clear in my initial response that I am all for breaking down misconceptions when it comes to commonly misunderstood disorders. My point is the people who are skeptical in this thread aren't doing so to feed into those stereotypes but because they distrust Kenna; the intent is not to invalidate ASD. Intent behind action matters in my mind and we can educate each other without suddenly putting Kenna up on this pedestal as the representative for women and girls with ASD. I'm sorry if it's something you also hear all the time and feels like you are also under attack but this isn't about you. Example: "Kenna probably lied to get the diagnosis and it seems to have happened so fast" = I distrust Kenna and suspect she's making something up NOT "ASD can be diagnosed easily and you can fake it". Is that a better example? I'm trying to show how yes there is ignorance but the intent isn't to target all people with ASD. 
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  5. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    This! This is a great casual example of using your current situation and platform to send a message (aka 'don't self diagnose' and 'weird behavior doesn't automatically = ASD). I hope we see things like this going forward and not excuses. I may be skeptical of the medical/psychological field but if someone out there benefits from it then that's what matters most. 
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  6. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    This is actually why I'd prefer this discussed. One of the easiest ways to shut people down is by mentioning a sensitive topic. Say mental illness/disorder and everyone starts pussy-footing around what they actually want to say.  I'd rather have open conversation but I get that's my personal preference. I can't get myself to see Kenna's latest content as some great improvement though. To me she's just actually posting content now and since it's not a lookbook people are soaking it right up. 
    Despite my difference in opinion though, I agree that the diagnosis would explain a lot of her past behaviors and it'll be really interesting to see where this goes from here. 
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  7. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    No one is attacking you or those with ASD. No one is trying to invalidate ASD and how it shows up in women & girls. No one is saying it isn't a struggle. No one is saying you can get it diagnosed in 5 minutes. 
    WE JUST DON'T TRUST KENNA. And I feel like the skepticism (about Kenna having ASD; not about the actual symptoms of ASD) is more than fair. She has lied about homelessness which is a serious topic, she has lied about stealing from other creators and more. It is natural for her to be met with doubt/skepticism, especially on a gossip forum of all places. And mental illness is absolutely regularly abused as an aesthetic so I get people questioning the timing etc. of all this. Hell Kenna herself used to post bodycheck-esque photos for pro ana followers.
    Believe me, I understand feeling the need to stand up for stigmatized/underrepresented disorders like ASD but this is about Kenna's track record not autism/asperger's in general. 
    Edit: I agree that Kenna is brave for opening up about it, if it is indeed true (and I don't hope she's lying about this). However, I disagree that she deserves major credit. She hasn't done anything but prove(?) her diagnosis and then give excuses for past behavior. Just being autistic and telling people about it isn't impressive to me. As it stands currently I wouldn't want any younger girls (neurotypical or otherwise) to look up to Kenna (aside from her latest video what has she done lately to be proud of?). That being said I don't think she's irredeemable. And I think she could use her platform to do great things and raise awareness for women and girls on the spectrum and I'd rather that happen than she be exposed for lying and further adding to the stigmatization of ASD. 
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  8. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    Honestly it does explain several things if Kenna is on the spectrum and autism often shows up differently in women and girls. That being said I can't shake my skepticism just yet. I too wonder how the tests worked. Because I highly doubt she would effectively be able to take the tests in Japanese and even if the hospital does provide English services there are several cases of foreigners basically steering themselves into diagnoses and medications (Ex. Briana aka Morena in Japan). Lastly I've seen Japan viewed by the medical + psychological community as "50 years behind". 
    I'm not saying Kenna went to a shoddy place and bought a diagnosis and I'm not claiming medical or psychological services are worse in Japan. These are just the things contributing to my skepticism that'll likely fade on its own soon. 
    I know a diagnosis can be very freeing and I kind of just want to wait to see if Kenna changes at all now. She was being accused in the comments of her new video for "acting autistic" and there was a noticeable change in her speech pattern. She says it was due to her not doing multiple takes and picking the best ones. I just wonder if we'll see more of that and if that's her "true" personality. 
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  9. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    Can someone explain to me why the seasons thing triggers everyone so much?? I legitimately can not understand why that bothers anyone in the slightest. 
    And Kenna's videos lately, much like her, have been aesthetically pleasing but lacking any actual substance. Not that you need to provide substance to have an audience but her socialblade numbers basically tell you how that's working out for her. I'm honestly surprised she kept losing subs after her last Q&A-ish video. I mean her fake charisma won like everyone over (I enjoyed the video a lot more bc of it). 
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  10. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    From the new video: "What don't they just mean sleep next to?"
    Oh Kenna you sweet summer child. It is so obvious that you understood what that question meant and even reacted to it (something you can tell despite the attempt to cut it). None of the asexual people I have ever met feigned ignorance to look extra ace or cutesy. 😂
    Also our girl Kenna DID indeed get her entertainment visa according to her pinned comment on this video.
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  11. 4thetea added a post in a topic mazelee   

    Newest video is sponsored by Hershey. Yeah there's no way they're broke, my mind is fully made up on that. 
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  12. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    Couldn't agree with you more on this. Her pets always felt like props to me and it was a weird energy I got that I just couldn't explain (mostly because she hadn't fully exposed her true (lack of) self.
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  13. 4thetea added a post in a topic mikan.mandarin   

    I also think it's pretty good. I honestly think the one thing she hasn't lied about is her Japanese level. I've taken accelerated courses similar to hers and the pace of the homework and assignments she posted were spot on. And while the N2 isn't indicative of speaking ability she has Hirokazu and his family along with just constantly being surrounded by Japanese speech. 
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  14. 4thetea added a post in a topic Nitpicking Thread   

    Could you elaborate on this? 
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  15. 4thetea added a post in a topic Simply_Kenna/cozykitsune [Thread 5]   

    I quite liked the montage, thought it was pleasant with a nice mix of aesthetic and "down to earth" clips. Some really beautiful shots in there Not exactly the specific videos she's been promising her audience though (unless she's passing this off as...the travel vlog?)
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