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Despite having no expectations whatsoever, the constant reminder that I'll never be good enough is really discouraging, and it's basically gotten to the point that I've accepted that I'm doomed to continue living my life bored and lonely.
i wouldn't necessarily say they're fetishists cause they're east asian themselves, so i can somewhat understand reasoning behind it, but yeah it sucks knowing that they're insistent on those ethnicities regardless. not like south east asians don't share cultural similarities or anything now every time i have a crush on a dude, i get self conscious about being tan and not looking "asian"
It's really discouraging to date when people around me only desire for someone Chinese/Japanese/Korean, completely dismissing that there are other parts of Asia that exists. Sorry that I'm not East Asian, or can't pass as East Asian, or even pale enough for you shitty boys
fei got some kinda treatment for her skin, too LOL i think it was the one that zaps your acne and acne scarring or something. i'm actually laughing that people believe their skin improved because of their skincare. nah honies it's cause you guys paid/got sponsored some procedures
I'm always up late so it makes sense that people often come to me to talk when they're feeling down, but whenever I'm in need of someone to talk to, no one is around. It's gotten to the point that when there does happen to be someone awake at the time, I just keep it in because there's no point if I'm going to have to hold it in again in the future anyway. I just feel so lonely these days. I'm so tired of having to scream for attention. If I were to disappear for a few days, probably no one would realize I'm gone and knowing that just frustrates me even more. I don't even know why I bother trying anymore.
There are a lot of older people in Vietnam that are ethnically Chinese due to immigrating or Vietnamese emigrating, which may be why she mostly identifies that way. There's tons of adults (around 35 y/o and older) that are fluent in both Vietnamese and Chinese (canto/mando i have no idea since I know neither) probably because of the environment during that time. Hell there are a lot of Vietnamese people that even have originally Chinese last names due to one of the parents/grandparents being Vietnamese and the other Chinese, so it's not surprising that if you meet someone Vietnamese that they also include their Chinese side. There's still the possibility that she COULD be lying, but as someone who's Vietnamese with an originally Chinese last name, I wanted to mention it since it's something a lot of people don't know, as is apparent in some of the comments. (it's literally 5 in the morning so i hope what i'm typing makes some sense) (btw count the amount of times i say viet/chinese in each sentence)
subtle asian traits has literally just become another place to post overshared memes that aren't even relatively "Asian" and i'm actually sick of seeing it on my newsfeed. same for subtle asian dating. it's literally filled with dating memes. i didn't join this stupid group for unfunny memes??