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LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK HOLY HELL Virgin shaming pisses me off so much, especially when women who wanna be particularly "woke" act like you're not a real woman/are setting women back decades because you don't wanna throw away your virginity/bang everyone you meet. Like okay, I know for some people virginity is a construct, but for others it actually matters. I for one certainly don't wanna waste my first time for anything, least of all sex, on someone I don't care about who doesn't care about me, just so I can get it over with and claim some stupid imaginary title. I'm not a fan of casual sex and I actually find it degrading, but I have friends and loved ones who do it and I don't shame them for their choices, because that's on them. Nowadays people get all uptight about "slut-shaming," but when it comes to virgin shaming they all turn a blind eye. It's disgusting and really should be met with the same level of outrage that slut-shaming is today.
I'm really fucking angry, a bunch of tiny things that went wrong just snowballed and I'm pissed. Because I have no phone, I've been running around like a headless chicken trying to arrange and keep appointments, which is hard because you can't call or text people to confirm and it's so fucking frustrating. I missed my nail appointment Thursday, which I'd been looking forward to for weeks, and now when they rescheduled, the guy had to rush home for something so I couldn't get the look I wanted until Monday (which, it's Valentine's Day nails, so what's the point?). Now I'm getting gel, which would normally be fine, except this week has been so anxiety-inducing that I've been all my once-long nails down to bloody stumps so I'm questioning how good it'll look (also, like, PAIN). I was also supposed to get something in the mail from my dad for Valentine's Day, and the company charged him to ship it, but it never arrived when it was SUPPOSED to be here for VDay, and now we're waiting on whether we're going to get it or not (they said Monday, too, and we're like WHAT THE HELL IS THE POINT WE WANTED IT FOR A CERTAIN DAY THIS IS WHY WE PUT THE THING IN IN ADVANCE). Like dammit not to sound like a Karen, but it gets so fucking frustrating when you have one or two things you're really looking forward to, and all of a sudden they come crashing down, especially when it's something meant to be holiday-related. Like, it's more special to get presents on Christmas, rather than a few days later, and while I wouldn't be upset to do these things the weekend after VDay (I consider it all the "Valentine's Weekend" anyway) I'm pretty much out of the spirit by Monday, when my stressful week starts up again and I'm just tired and done. Like, why do I need Valentine's designs done on my nails after VDay? Why do i need vday-themed decorations or chocolate (okay, admittedly i always want chocolate lol) after the day's passed? Idk maybe i'm just overreacting, but this semester has been so shitty and I have gotten zero breaks, my health appeal at school was rejected, my stress levels are up so high it's manifesting physically in ways I haven't seen in years, my phone being broken is literally ruining my life, and what little joys or reprieves i would get just dont happen. its so fucking frustrating, and it puts me in an even worse mood to the point im just overloaded. i fucking hate it.
No sweat, caterpillars, I totally relate. I'm in my 3rd year of undergrad, and on some level it bothers me that there are people I definitely will not see again. I have friends in grades above and below me, from outside the U.S. to in the same town as my uni. It's weird because these people become such a part of your life. It definitely sucks at times.
Today while looking up Valentine's Day articles, I found one on Bustle that talked about basically "how to commit to self-care when Valentine's Day is triggering for you." In the first paragraph or two it mentioned how hard it can be to see happy couples on Valentine's Day if you've ended or faced betrayal in a relationship. What the actual hell. It annoys the hell out of me when single people get so triggered over Valentine's Day. Like, good lord, if you get so offended by other people's happiness, that is entirely a YOU problem. The fact the article tried to justify breakups or being betrayed/cheated on as a valid reason to resent other couples for being happy is disgusting and 1000% appalling. Like, I've been disappointed in VDay, but it doesn't mean I'm going to actively root against those who weren't. Hell, I saw a girl across the hall from me get flowers at 8:30 in the morning from her bf, and I almost melted, because happiness and romance should be appreciated. It's rare enough in our shitty world--stop making it worse because you wanna feel sorry for yourself.
On that note, I love Valentine's Day. Sure, whatever, it's hella commercialized, but what holiday isn't? I don't agree with going crazy, and have had my skeptic moments about it, but overall just seeing people get giddy over a holiday ENTIRELY ABOUT LOVE is just about one of the sweetest things ever (also Galentine's Day is super fun idc what anyone says)
I HAVE A PHILOSOPHY PAPER DUE TOMORROW AND I HATE IT, SOCRATES CAN FIGHT ME, FUCK MY UNI'S CORE CURRICULUM IT'S BS I MISSED MY VALENTINE THEMED NAIL APPOINTMENT THAT I'D BEEN LOOKING FORWARD TO FOR WEEKS, BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE A CELLPHONE. I GOT THE TIMES MIXED UP WITH THE CHAOS THAT MY LIFE'S BEEN LATELY, MISSED THE APPOINTMENT, COULDN'T GET CALLS FROM THE SALON BC MY PHONE IS BROKEN--LIKE THEY CAN FIT ME IN SATURDAY WHICH IS FINE MOST OF MY VALENTINE'S DAY EVENTS ARE SATURDAY NIGHT AND SUNDAY. THANK GOD IM NOT DOING ANYTHING SPECIAL FOR ACTUAL VALENTINE'S DAY CAUSE MY NAILS LOOK SHITTY BUT ALSO FUCK I WISH MY CRUSH REMEMBERED I EXISTED SO WE COULD HANG OR SOMETHING. ALSO FUCK THE NORTHERN UNITED STATES. IT'S ALWAYS COLD AND MISERABLE AS SHIT. I WANTED TO GO TO VISIT FAMILY IN FLORIDA FOR SPRING BREAK BUT I CAN'T BC PLANS FELL THRU AND NOW IM STUCK HERE AND IT'S DEPRESSING AS SHIT, I JUST WANT SOME SUN SO I CAN PRETEND MY PROBLEMS AREN'T SLOWLY SNOWBALLING INTO SOMETHING WORSE *PTERODACTYL SCREECH* WOW THIS PLACE IS CATHARTIC SERIOUSLY SOMEBODY FIGHT ME I CANT FIGHT SOCRATES AND NEED TO LET OFF SOME STEAM
What was that screenshot of his discord, where he called his fanbase something like "YanDev's precious little fuck kittens" or some shit? He rants and raves about his game isn't for kids, but he says THAT? Like, I dunno, not that it's an appropriate thing to call someone of any age, but that highkey sounds like something you'd call someone younger than you--significantly younger. You can't have your cake and eat it too, Alex--either you hate that your fanbase is full is kids (mostly underage/teen girls) OR you love it, wanna milk that sweet, sweet gratification for all it's worth, and secretly have sick twisted fantasies about how much your fanbase glorifies you because they're blind and naive. Honestly, it feels like he's just saying that shit about his game not being for kids because he wants to seem like some cool and edgy!!1!1 developer, when in reality he just feeds off the attention from the underage female crowds he draws (since god knows no adult woman with a modicum of sense would even glance in his direction).
I HATE Devacurl now. i still can't believe the drama over it in the last week, but honestly, I'm glad it's coming out. I've had curly hair my whole life, but only made some informed decisions to care for it in late 2016, when I got a major chop and switched over to strictly DC products. It looked great for a while, but then I started having issues with 2nd/3rd/4th day curls, which just got progressively worse. Add on that I was pulling massive clumps out of my hair every time I washed it, my hair got so much thinner, it's limp and stringy now (I've taken to straightening my hair more often than ever, simply because it's so much cuter and easier to manage). It's just a nightmare. I hate to see others going through it but also, since influencers have started supporting the movement and bringing it to light I hope there'll be change. My only issue is trying to find new products--curly hair products that actually work are so hard to find, and trial/error is expensive--but hopefully in the long run I'll save money, bc looking at other girls' damage and comparing it to my own locks, I feel sick. I feel betrayed by a brand that touted its self-proclaimed curly savior status, and took advantage of curly girls' desperation for pretty, manageable hair.
APPLE FUCKED ME OVER NOW IT'S 13 DAYS TIL MY PHONE IS UNLOCKED, AND AS IT TURNS OUT IT WAS THEIR OWN FUCKING FAULT, THE PROGRAMMING WAS SHODDY AND THE LOGIC BOARD (?) FUCKED UP WHICH IT ISN'T SUPPOSED TO DO SO THEY CAN'T EVEN RESET MY PHONE IT'S A NIGHTMARE JESUS CHRIST FUCK APPLE FUCK STEVE JOBS FUCK TIM COOKE IM DONE
Highkey agree, fam. I knew Jay was dating Nini before i ever really followed his channel (I subscribed about 2 years ago, and only glanced at his videos once or twice before that). Even then I just knew they'd been dating a long time--but ten years? And they break up NOW? That's super sus. I'll be honest, I unsubscribed from Jay following that video. He made it seem as if he and Nini made the mutual decision to split up--meanwhile, on the Kubz Scouts instagram, a picture was posted from one of Nini's social media accounts, in which she describes moving to Texas, having to be Mason's mom and dad and admits that she is devastated. It was heartwrenching, and all the caption was was a red heart emoji. Idk, but that does not sound like co-parenting or a "mutual decision" to me. It sounds like he fucked up, whether he cheated or just noped out, and frankly I have a huge problem with that. It's your long-time gf and your kid. She didn't knock herself up, and frankly even if she trapped him, there's almost always a possibility of pregnancy with sex, so he still has a part in it. A kid is a huge responsibility, yes, but he needs to actually take responsibility for what he helped create. What gets me is that people are super sympathetic, aren't questioning this development and/or are saying it's better for Mason, because a kid shouldn't grow up in a household where the parents don't get along. Like, 1) they should question this, they've been dating forever and now break up just after having a kid? What? and 2) kids deserve two parents. I understand if the household is abusive or something extenuating, but as someone who grew up in a household where the parents didn't get along, it gives you stability and ultimately is better for you in the end (again, barring extreme circumstances). Sorry, this just messes me up so much. Based on her pregnancy announcement, something big happened in Nini's life that made her change her view on kids. I can't imagine what that must be like--spending 9 months with your partner getting ready to have their child, experiencing the ups and downs and joys of being a parent, and then BAM, less than four months after giving birth your SO of roughly a decade is kinda gone from your life and youve got to now manage for yourself and your newborn kid. Jeez.
I actually wanna kill something (not really but I'm pretty fucking pissed). Out of literally NO WHERE, my phone started restarting randomly and wouldn't turn on, and now says it needs to be restored. I tried updating software, to no avail--it needs to be completely wiped (I swear to God I hate iPhone X's, they're actually awful and even apple employees have admitted that to me, it has so many problems this is just one of many I've had in less than 2 years of owning it--also this phone's new, i got my first X replaced because of a different software issue last May) . Anyway I wanted to check my last iCloud backup to make sure I wouldn't lose too much info--except for whatever reason, my Apple ID password on my keychain never updated, so I had no idea what my password was. Fast forward to now: I have several INCREDIBLY significant phone calls to place to doctors for school and I can't, because my phone's dead, and even if I restore it I can't access my backup because it's in my CURRENTLY LOCKED apple id, which they told me will take 24 hours to "maybe" unlock. All I can hope is to call Apple support...but with WHAT FUCKING PHONE, ANDREW?! (The super unhelpful tech guy I dealt with last night). Also, my dorm fan died. I have a philosophy test Friday. I've got a million things to do and it's all slowly crushing me and God why won't this week just end -___-
So it’s come to my attention that Jay from the Kubz Scouts and his gf Nini broke up— they literally just had a baby. What the actual fuck. i feel like I’ve seen this pattern before in some popular social media icons and just people in general, they look super happy and stable, they have a kid, and then suddenly BOOM their relationship’s over. Like, Jay and Nini literally had a kid in OCTOBER and now they’re done? i guess my unpopular opinion is literally how the fuck can you do that to a kid. You literally knock someone up and then before a year passes you’re gone. Jay said it was mutual but based on posts Nini’s made she is, in her own words, “devastated”. It just infuriates me that people can do that—it’s one thing to end a relationship when you’ve got no one dependent on you, but once you have a kid you seriously need to fight to make it work, and put things in perspective. A kid deserves both parents who love and care for them—it stops being about you, it becomes about what’s best for the child, and barring extenuating circumstances splitting up a home is rarely ever good for the kid.
christ, I just hate this so much. If you’re not ready for a kid do NOT have one. And if you are or think you are, and you do, realize how the shit you do will affect them. It just boggles my mind that you can go from “we love each other so much we’re having a baby” to “yeah so we’re no longer together” in less than four months.