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My high school friends do this on their finstas, and one of them posted a huge rant some months back about how going abroad was devastating for her bc it was the first time she'd be separated from her boyfriend in over a year, for any extended period of time. I was like bitch, do you think we care? You look hella sad and pathetic rn. He's a guy, get the fuck over yourself. It's not like you're breaking up, or like you're not gonna talk while you're abroad. All she did was emphasize how dependent she was on him, like she hadn't lived the first two decades of her life without a man. Gimme a break. Unless you're a celeb, no one cares (and even then i maintain only people with really boring lives or who are desperate for fulfillment give a fuck).
Closing schools and sending students home is fucking bullshit. My university followed blindly along with others, and every symptom shows how poorly they planned this. Everyone has older parents. Some ppl have immunocompromised family. My school is bringing all study abroad students home, which for a lot of the programs puts them at GREATER RISK for catching corona than leaving them in their country. Instead, they could’ve just put classes online and left us in our dorms. But no, they had to reject any chance at liability, when frankly for most of us it is not that dangerous. Most students are able bodied and healthy on campus; locking us in would put fewer people at risk than having us leave and possibly infect countless other areas or contract it elsewhere. im just so mad. I can appreciate the risk to older ppl or those with preexisting conditions but making all the college students leave while still having online classes it actually idiotic, since we aren’t the ones at risk. And yes, I think it’s way too fucking overhyped.
My school's debating whether or not to go online. One of my classes already has. IDK how they're gonna manage that since some of these courses can't really be done just online, but whatevs. I'm highkey pretty sad, this is the first genuinely good semester I've had in college (made friends I hang out with consistently and like, have a great roommate, everything but classes seems to be going well). They're debating whether to send us home too (unless i get a full refund for my expensive ass housing I'm not leaving, and even then I really can't, I'm not jeopardizing my older parent's health if I've been exposed (campus health services is located in my building so chances are, given that we have rumored cases and I've been in and out of health services, I or others have been exposed). Just fuck all this bs.
Hard disagree. I run a writing and novel development blog, and only follow other writing accounts. I've seen so much toxicity in my feed I've had to stop what I'm doing and leave the site for a bit, it's sickening.
If you let politics get in the way of personal relationships—w/ friends, family, S.O.’s, whatever—you’re a shit weasel. Politics doesn’t define everything, and not everyone fits into the ridiculous stereotypes of one group or another. All pro-lifers aren’t anti-women (male) monsters who wanna control women’s bodies. Not all Democrats are anti-American communists who want to take away all our freedoms and destroy the nation. By buying into this nonsense, and cutting off people in your life bc their views differ from your own, you’re an asshole. Short of that person espousing actual hatred or threatening harm to others, people are allowed to have alternate beliefs, and to cut loved ones out SOLELY BASED ON THAT PREMISE is ridiculous. I have friends and family who lean far to both the left and the right. I don’t agree with a lot of their views. I don’t hate them. I try to understand them and where they come from, and they do the same for me. It’s why we get along. To lump someone into a hateful stereotype and reject your relationship with them based on a few opposing viewpoints is just stupid, and it shouldn’t be encouraged as it is. There’s so much more to life than that.
Bro is fucking toxic as shit. nopancakes, that isn't a friend, that's an asshole. Friends do NOT treat their friends issues this way!! DROP HIS ASS, frmo the second I started reading this i got hella narcissistic vibes--he's not concerned about you, he's concerned with himself and how what youre going thru affects you. Being a good friend and doing things to helps someone is one thing; doing it so you can pat yourself on the back and laude it over your friends as how great you are completely invalidates every good thing they've done. Just 1000% fuck. him. (Putting my rant in spoiler mode just to avoid cluttering this message)
See I feel this, and often feel bad because of this, because I'm the type of person who does this. I don't overuse the cutesie emojis (still use them frequently though), but I do call people "love/hun/cutie/darling/etc." I'm a super affectionate person and when I say I love someone or care about them, it's always genuine. But since i can't always hug or be overly affectionate in person with most of my friends, I make up for it thru text form. THEN i see this ish on twitter (even worse when women do it EXPLICITLY TO BE CONDESCENDING TO PEOPLE) and it bothers the hell out of me. Like goddamit, this is why I have issues when i act this way with girls--im always afraid they'll think im being insincere when im not, i just love calling my friends cute pet names and being cutesie and lovey with them
Almost forgot this thread existed, but an issue I mentioned in Rant Thread reminded me and brought me back. Sooooo I have major sexual attraction to my friend. We met this semester in a school activity club thru my roommate/friend, we play fight/bicker all the time, we play flirt with each other, and the club as a whole jokingly ships us (I say jokingly, but I had a full discussion with some of the members one night about hooking up with him, bc i guess they think something's there? idk). Since he's only an exchange student (we bonded over the fact that the university I attended abroad last semester is his actual university at home) and leaves in May, I had no interest in him...at first. Except one night we drunkenly cuddled. Then he took care of me when i had a bit of an incident (holding my hair, taking care of me/being super supportive, the works). I now find him super attractive--he's always been physically easy on the eyes, but something about him makes me really want a physical relationship with him. Kinda like friends with benefits... ...just without sex. He knows I'm pretty much waiting for marriage, though as I ended up explaining it's due largely to past bad experiences with men and a lack of desire to get my feelings decimated and my trust and vulnerability exploited. He's more into casual sex (not all the time, but he's mentioned it and I can't tell if he's joking or not). I just wanna make out, cuddle, maybe a little R-rated content, just not vaginal sex. I just don't know how to approach it, because I don't know if he finds me attractive or not. I don't want to ruin the dynamic, either, even though I highkey would be like "Hey, I like your face and wanna get with it for a few months before you leave and not do anything super serious, if you're not down tho that's fine let's still be friends ^_^". I'd ask my roommate, but she has very similar feelings about him and while she said she wasn't going to stop me or ask me not to pursue him, I still feel as if it's breaking the girl code or something to ask about this. I'm also MAD inexperienced, yet find myself feeling things about this guy I never have before. I'm not filled with the same anxiety that i normally get with guys when i'm around him. Hell, i sorta stole his scarf for a day and found it super comforting to wear and have. I figure I'd rather cut my teeth (so to speak) on a relationship with a guy I feel so comfortable with, even if it's not serious and won't last forever, and even my counselor seems to think it could possibly help me slowly overcome some of my trust and vulnerability issues with longer-lasting relationships. But idk, I'm not sure what to do. I know I'll regret it if i say nothing, but im also not sure if I should talk about it with one of my other club members or even my roommate. I'm afraid of rejection and the fallout. I'm nto sure if it's worth it. Any advice on this would be super duper helpful
Tell them to get wreck. Do what you think will be most fun for you, be it Florida or NYC, BUT DO NOT SPEND YOUR MONEY ON THEM. My family is unfortunately extremely similar--they're selfish, spoiled, and only want to do things when me or my parents foot the bill (we stopped and they stopped dealing with us--I miss them like I'd miss a rusty nail in my foot). No friend makes you their personal piggy bank if they really care. Hell, I feel awkward asking my friend/roommate to pick food up from the dining hall for me, and she has a school-mandated meal plan with more money than either of us could spend in a semester. My point is that friends should be thankful that you bought them tickets, they would NOT be this dickish and irresponsible with plans, and then on top of that just change plans and ask you to foot their bill. Fuck them. If you wanna go to Disney, don't pay for their flights, because then it just gives them more reason to walk all over you.
Also, my rant: My roommate and I are attracted to the same dude and it's weird. She knows he isn't pursuing anything long-term (he's a visiting student who goes back to his country in May) so she's really torn, and while I definitely feel the same, i'm also interested in a lowkey FWB situation. He's attractive, I like him as a friend, and I wouldn't mind hooking up with him (not sexually but more like making out, cuddling, etc.). But simultaneously i don't want to step on her? Like she's my friend and i love her and she said she wasn't gonna discourage me from pursuing him if I wanted. I'm not actively trying, either--it's just that our whole club lowkey (somewhat jokingly) ships us bc we argue all the time and make fun of each other and have that "they hate each other but are rlly fucking" vibe (even though we're not). I say somewhat jokingly, but seriously, when we interact in front of people who aren't used to it (ppl outside our club), they legitimately believe we're dating. I JUST HAVE ZERO IDEA HOW TO GO ABOUT IT! I have little self-confidence, and even in the face of obvious flirtation or people telling me i'm attractive i'll shrug it off as them being nice, not to be humble but because I genuinely am more willing to believe that I'm misinterpreting their signals than I am to believe they're hitting on me. That said, I don't want to put myself out on a limb and risk ruining our friendly dynamic or getting rejected (which is pretty much the only likely outcome my mind will accept). I'm just super frustrated and wanna keep teasing him but at the same time I wish he'd realize I'm down for a little more than harmless teasing, "flirting," or drunken cuddling (all of which we have done lol)
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK HOLY HELL Virgin shaming pisses me off so much, especially when women who wanna be particularly "woke" act like you're not a real woman/are setting women back decades because you don't wanna throw away your virginity/bang everyone you meet. Like okay, I know for some people virginity is a construct, but for others it actually matters. I for one certainly don't wanna waste my first time for anything, least of all sex, on someone I don't care about who doesn't care about me, just so I can get it over with and claim some stupid imaginary title. I'm not a fan of casual sex and I actually find it degrading, but I have friends and loved ones who do it and I don't shame them for their choices, because that's on them. Nowadays people get all uptight about "slut-shaming," but when it comes to virgin shaming they all turn a blind eye. It's disgusting and really should be met with the same level of outrage that slut-shaming is today.
I'm really fucking angry, a bunch of tiny things that went wrong just snowballed and I'm pissed. Because I have no phone, I've been running around like a headless chicken trying to arrange and keep appointments, which is hard because you can't call or text people to confirm and it's so fucking frustrating. I missed my nail appointment Thursday, which I'd been looking forward to for weeks, and now when they rescheduled, the guy had to rush home for something so I couldn't get the look I wanted until Monday (which, it's Valentine's Day nails, so what's the point?). Now I'm getting gel, which would normally be fine, except this week has been so anxiety-inducing that I've been all my once-long nails down to bloody stumps so I'm questioning how good it'll look (also, like, PAIN). I was also supposed to get something in the mail from my dad for Valentine's Day, and the company charged him to ship it, but it never arrived when it was SUPPOSED to be here for VDay, and now we're waiting on whether we're going to get it or not (they said Monday, too, and we're like WHAT THE HELL IS THE POINT WE WANTED IT FOR A CERTAIN DAY THIS IS WHY WE PUT THE THING IN IN ADVANCE). Like dammit not to sound like a Karen, but it gets so fucking frustrating when you have one or two things you're really looking forward to, and all of a sudden they come crashing down, especially when it's something meant to be holiday-related. Like, it's more special to get presents on Christmas, rather than a few days later, and while I wouldn't be upset to do these things the weekend after VDay (I consider it all the "Valentine's Weekend" anyway) I'm pretty much out of the spirit by Monday, when my stressful week starts up again and I'm just tired and done. Like, why do I need Valentine's designs done on my nails after VDay? Why do i need vday-themed decorations or chocolate (okay, admittedly i always want chocolate lol) after the day's passed? Idk maybe i'm just overreacting, but this semester has been so shitty and I have gotten zero breaks, my health appeal at school was rejected, my stress levels are up so high it's manifesting physically in ways I haven't seen in years, my phone being broken is literally ruining my life, and what little joys or reprieves i would get just dont happen. its so fucking frustrating, and it puts me in an even worse mood to the point im just overloaded. i fucking hate it.
No sweat, caterpillars, I totally relate. I'm in my 3rd year of undergrad, and on some level it bothers me that there are people I definitely will not see again. I have friends in grades above and below me, from outside the U.S. to in the same town as my uni. It's weird because these people become such a part of your life. It definitely sucks at times.
Today while looking up Valentine's Day articles, I found one on Bustle that talked about basically "how to commit to self-care when Valentine's Day is triggering for you." In the first paragraph or two it mentioned how hard it can be to see happy couples on Valentine's Day if you've ended or faced betrayal in a relationship. What the actual hell. It annoys the hell out of me when single people get so triggered over Valentine's Day. Like, good lord, if you get so offended by other people's happiness, that is entirely a YOU problem. The fact the article tried to justify breakups or being betrayed/cheated on as a valid reason to resent other couples for being happy is disgusting and 1000% appalling. Like, I've been disappointed in VDay, but it doesn't mean I'm going to actively root against those who weren't. Hell, I saw a girl across the hall from me get flowers at 8:30 in the morning from her bf, and I almost melted, because happiness and romance should be appreciated. It's rare enough in our shitty world--stop making it worse because you wanna feel sorry for yourself.
On that note, I love Valentine's Day. Sure, whatever, it's hella commercialized, but what holiday isn't? I don't agree with going crazy, and have had my skeptic moments about it, but overall just seeing people get giddy over a holiday ENTIRELY ABOUT LOVE is just about one of the sweetest things ever (also Galentine's Day is super fun idc what anyone says)
I HAVE A PHILOSOPHY PAPER DUE TOMORROW AND I HATE IT, SOCRATES CAN FIGHT ME, FUCK MY UNI'S CORE CURRICULUM IT'S BS I MISSED MY VALENTINE THEMED NAIL APPOINTMENT THAT I'D BEEN LOOKING FORWARD TO FOR WEEKS, BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE A CELLPHONE. I GOT THE TIMES MIXED UP WITH THE CHAOS THAT MY LIFE'S BEEN LATELY, MISSED THE APPOINTMENT, COULDN'T GET CALLS FROM THE SALON BC MY PHONE IS BROKEN--LIKE THEY CAN FIT ME IN SATURDAY WHICH IS FINE MOST OF MY VALENTINE'S DAY EVENTS ARE SATURDAY NIGHT AND SUNDAY. THANK GOD IM NOT DOING ANYTHING SPECIAL FOR ACTUAL VALENTINE'S DAY CAUSE MY NAILS LOOK SHITTY BUT ALSO FUCK I WISH MY CRUSH REMEMBERED I EXISTED SO WE COULD HANG OR SOMETHING. ALSO FUCK THE NORTHERN UNITED STATES. IT'S ALWAYS COLD AND MISERABLE AS SHIT. I WANTED TO GO TO VISIT FAMILY IN FLORIDA FOR SPRING BREAK BUT I CAN'T BC PLANS FELL THRU AND NOW IM STUCK HERE AND IT'S DEPRESSING AS SHIT, I JUST WANT SOME SUN SO I CAN PRETEND MY PROBLEMS AREN'T SLOWLY SNOWBALLING INTO SOMETHING WORSE *PTERODACTYL SCREECH* WOW THIS PLACE IS CATHARTIC SERIOUSLY SOMEBODY FIGHT ME I CANT FIGHT SOCRATES AND NEED TO LET OFF SOME STEAM