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This is totally incorrect though? The main difference between them is that bisexuality involves being attracted to more than one gender (not necessarily just "male or female"), while pansexuality is attraction to people regardless of gender. Bisexuals can still be attracted to trans/nonbinary/intersex people.
The thing is, Venus is acting a fool, but people are the product of their environments - it's becoming apparent that Venus has basically never had any good influences in her life and we're seeing the fallout from that. Like, she basically only had her mother for company for pretty much her entire childhood (and we've seen how things turned out for Margo), and most of her "friends" in Japan seem like shallow influencer types who just use each other for increased social media traffic via collabs more than anything else. Manaki seems mostly harmless, but I guess we'll never know the full story there either. Like, I'm seeing a person who wants to sort her life out but has no idea how to behave like a functional well-adjusted adult because this is basically all she knows. She needs an intervention but I doubt anyone in her life would actually do that.
I wonder if this new ‘business’ Venus is starting is some kind of pyramid scheme... Like, one of those of multi-level marketing things where you call yourself a business owner but really you’re just running your own subset of a wider organisation with a few underpaid staff members who all work commission? It would explain how Venus is suddenly able to start her own business despite having zero formal qualifications, since they’ll take on pretty much anybody who’s desperate for money and gullible enough to fall for it. I had this really shady “marketing company” try to recruit me once where they claimed you could work your way towards being a CEO of your own company within a year - and all the staff were paid commission (i.e. basically nothing) and were classed as “self employed” to avoid having to give them any actual worker’s rights. I don’t know how common they are in Japan (although I guess it could be international) but it would explain a lot if it was the kind of thing Venus is doing.
Re: the language thing, has Venus ever actually claimed to be fluent in 7 languages? I always got the impression she knows the basics of quite a few languages but never lived anywhere long enough to fully master any of them. Her written English is mostly pretty good these days but her pronunciation when speaking isn't great. Her accent is really strange - it doesn't even sound like a typical German accent, it's more like she slurs her speech a lot as if she can't quite get the words out? Given what people have said about her odd accent in German as well, I wonder if Venus actually has some kind of speech impediment, or whether she just picked up an unusual way of speaking due to being taught her "first language" by someone who wasn't at all fluent. Linguists would have a field day with her.
If anything, this is just sad to watch. It's clear Venus has got some serious issues, which isn't surprising given her upbringing - I know she said she doesn't have BPD after all but I do believe it's still possible she has some sort of personality disorder, or possibly C-PTSD. Not to armchair diagnose but the way she's behaving (self-destructive behaviour, erratic moods, unstable sense of identity, attention-seeking) are all consistent with the symptoms of BPD or someone trying to cope with trauma. It's also not uncommon for people who've suffered emotional abuse in childhood to inadvertently learn those same manipulative behaviours from their parents, even if they recognise that they were treated wrongly. Like, the way she's acting is 100% immature and unfair on the people in her life, but unfortunately the reality of trauma is that it often IS ugly and messy and difficult to recover from. She clearly doesn't know what's good for her - she's resorting to defense mechanisms she's likely learned from her mother (i.e. lashing out and blaming everyone else for her problems, most of which nowadays are the result of her own poor decision-making). Maybe she just assumes she's fine because she isn't super depressed right now, or something. I also suspect she's surrounding herself with people who are enabling this behaviour and distancing herself from anyone who tries to intervene or call her out on her bullshit - possibly even any therapists she's been seeing. IMO she needs to get some serious help and find a therapist who specialises in trauma and childhood abuse, but I don't know how easy that would be in Japan. The girl desperately needs an intervention because she clearly isn't willing or able to help herself at this point. TL;DR - anyone whiteknighting Venus or trying to act like there's nothing wrong with what she's doing is fucking stupid, but I also don't know how some people can like, look at a person having an obvious public breakdown in real time and take some kind of glee in her downfall either. I mostly just hope she gets the help she needs to properly recover and sort her life out, even if it means deleting all her social media accounts.
I feel like Venus claiming she's recovered and then making a vague vent post on IG is a typical BPD symptom - which IIRC she's said she has. Moods can cycle very rapidly and if she's having a down day, seeking attention and validation from internet followers looks like a coping mechanism to me, especially if she doesn't feel like she's getting much support from her friends IRL. I feel like the fact that she goes on about how she thinks of her fans like her friends/family or can rely on them for support (she even hints at it in her most recent video) shows that she maybe doesn't have the healthiest attitude towards her online following. I know making videos is what she loves doing, but I feel like it's something she might need to work on if she's going to restart her YouTube career.
It is entirely possible she could be self-diagnosing, but if that's the case then either A) she's right and she does have BPD, but without a formal diagnosis she probably isn't able to access the kind of therapy that would actually help her and she might be using ineffective self-help methods or online communities which are just enabling her unhealthy behaviour further. Or B) she's misdiagnosed herself and maybe doesn't have BPD, but based on her behaviour it seems likely that she at least has something similar, like PTSD or bipolar. Either way, I hope she does have a professional diagnosis just because it is difficult to accdss the right kind of therapy if you aren't seeing a doctor about your condition.
People can relapse and/or experience delayed responses to trauma, too. It might be that Venus genuinely felt happy and relieved when she first got away from her mother, but the more she processed and thought through what happened to her, the more her mental health started to suffer.
I know it's poor form to try and armchair diagnose people you don't know, but in this case I have a feeling Venus might have some form of post-traumatic stress disorder as well as BPD? Complex PTSD involves a lot of the same symptoms which she describes in her social media posts (emotional instability, persistent feelings of emptiness, suicidal thoughts and dissociation are just a few). It would make a lot of sense if Venus had PTSD considering all the shit she's been through in the past, and considering how a lot of it happened early in the year (around Feb/March time), it would make sense for this to be a difficult time of year for her. I hope Venus is getting help. I'm sure she's felt this bad before and just not talked about it online, but the fact that she's posting about it publicly makes me think that she might not feel like she's getting enough support from other people in her day-to-day life.
I think she's maybe realising that the Venus Angelic persona was still very tied up in the person her mother wanted her to be - I mean, she created that screen name when she was 13 years old. It looks like she's trying to leave the past behind a little and figure out an identity separate from all of that.
I don't know if Venus and Mikan really hang out any more? They still seem friendly with each other online but I get the vibe that Mikan doesn't really see much of her friends now that she has a boyfriend, plus she studies and has a job so she's probably super busy. I wonder if that's what Venus is struggling with in terms of feeling lonely - maybe most of her friends don't have the time to see her around this time of year? I know I have a similar problem - being in your 20s sucks like that.
Guys, I really don't think Venus and Manaki have really split. Deleting social media posts isn't solid evidence of a breakup, especially not when Venus has still been talking about Manaki and receiving birthday presents from his parents. My guess is just that they're trying to keep their life as a couple more private - maybe all the gossip and harassment from Marg got too much. Manaki especially never seemed all that comfortable in the public eye/in front of the camera, and taking a step back from social media might be part of Venus' mental health recovery too.