I honestly don't get why you have to be so aggressive about this and throw around personal insults, when this is supposedly a casual debate about suggestions and complaints.
But whatever, I feel like you really do take a lot of things as an attack, and like to extrapolate quite a bit, so I'm going to reply to your points individually, because it seems to me that you have trouble understanding what I'm trying to say. Or maybe you just want to see it a specific way, and (sub)consciously ignore everything that doesn't fit your narrative?
So let's begin:
"The way my post was written was very obviously a general post and not directed at any one person because as I stated, I avoided doing so." "I jumped in because it was asinine that people jump to these ridiculous conclusions based off nothing" "I'm sensitive to completely unfounded, baseless, and straight up uneducated entitled bullshit being spewed."
There's no misunderstanding here, I get that you were refraining from calling people out by name, that's why I said I haven't seen anyone persume that the admins and mods don't have to deal with a lot of behind the scenes work. So I simply stated that I don't get why mods and ex-mods keep bringing up this argument again and again, when people only criticised the way some mods interact with the users. That in itself is not being ungrateful.
But if you have some specific posts in mind, go ahead and quote them, it seems like we're already in an argument anyway, and obviously there might have been some that slipped my mind or which I simply didn't take seriously.
"I took nothing of what was said as an attack to me."
I didn't say that you took things as an attack to you personally, but as an attack towards the mods/admins in general, which I thought was unwarranted. But it looks like there's a pattern here, that's why I was wondering if it's an "occupational hazard" to take harmless criticism as a judgment on one's entire character after a while.
"I worked WITH Nyx. FOR A LONG TIME when I was a mod. I know full well what her visions for the site are. But what she considers a community may very well be and probably is very different from what YOU consider a community." "Common attitudes, interests, and goals". Guess who determines those things?" "Just because she's nice to you or hasn't bitched you out doesn't mean she agrees with you. "
That's definitely a possibility. I only made an assumption based on what the admins communicate towards us. Who determines those things? Obviously the admins have the final say on what direction they want the site to take. But it's also based on continuous feedback from those who are part of the community, in this case the users, in order to achieve that "sense of fellowship".
"But its her site and if she doesn't find a problem with how her mods are, then like I said - deal with it or leave."
Again, continuous feedback, Nyx has to deal with a lot of things, so she obiously can't supervise the mods 24/7. Rhea said in a previous post that she herself sees why people might be bothered by her way of communicating, and since she prioritises building a good community where the users are generally satisfied, she would gladly stick to working behind the scenes if there were enough mods to take care of the tasks that require interaction with the users.
"I've clearly seen that the people you claim are "bothered", are new and people who haven't been here long enough to understand how this place is/was and like I said - you don't get to go into someone else's yard and tell them how to do things." "But it's going to be cleaned up to HER standards. And she IS thick skinned so guess what? Her standards are going to be very different from yours." "If you want something tamer, then go to Reddit. Simple as that."
The users, whether old or new, are all part of this community, so their feedback matters, and eventually shapes the forum. Change is inevitable, and while as an admin it's definitely one's right to stick to certain principles, unless you want the place die out, you have to adapt somewhat to the changing needs of the userbase. That's why Nyx asks for feedback a lot (as she had mentioned previously). When leading a community one has to consider a lot more than just how they themselves function socially, otherwise it will only attract a very tiny fraction of people.
As long as you don't cross the line between constructive criticism and plain bitching, you do get to go in someone's yard and tell them how to do things. Worst case scenario is that things won't change towards what you want, and then obviously there's no reason to stick around - we agree on this.
"That should be your first indicator that this isn't a place full of rainbows and butterflies."
Lol, I literally just said that the forum getting tamer doesn't automatically make it a hugbox with "rainbows and butterflies" (come again criticising my reading comprehension?), as there's a huge range between that and lolcow/kiwifarm mentality, and there's always going to be a variety of individual attitudes as long as the forum isn't totally niche.
"But if you're thin-skinned and sensitive, what you consider "civil" may not actually be what reality considers civil and that's what so many people nowadays don't seem to understand. What you consider "fair" may not actually be fair in reality. And until you learn to differentiate what YOU feel and what how society functions, you're going to have a seriously hard time living in this world. Especially on the internet which tends to be colder than the outside world."
Again, that's what a welcoming online community means. It's not the outside world, I'm not talking with my boss, I'm sharing and hearing out opinions on a subject that interests me in a place where I feel good. This is a form of entertainment, and most people like to spend their free time doing things that makes them chill out after dealing with the everyday mundane shit.
What I can say for sure is that you wouldn't be great at leading a forum based on your rigid mentality, unwillingness to empathise with others, and your sense of entitlement and certitude that you must be right, and will continue to be right regardless of the changing atmosphere around you because you used to be a mod here.
And to close it off:
"It may not wake you up right now, but when you get older and look back on this behavior you're going to laugh at yourself."
I'm going to keep a non-comprehensive list of your collected insults in the quote box, just as a demonstration. I guess it will speak volumes about which one of us is acting immature here. It's up to everyone else to judge that the way they want ¯\_(ツ)_/¯